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        <title><![CDATA[WHAT THE FREUD IS GOING ON WITH YOUR LIFE!?!?!?!?]]></title>
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        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today Dr. Judy outlined the FLOW of the MIND MAP and explained how our DEFENSE MECHANISMS or SYMPTOMS are hieroglyphics that point to CAUSE.  Symptoms of HUMAN DISCONNECT such as ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, ADDICTIONS, and all symptoms are the KEYS to solving t]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today Dr. Judy outlined the FLOW of the MIND MAP and explained how our DEFENSE MECHANISMS or SYMPTOMS are hieroglyphics that point to CAUSE.  Symptoms of HUMAN DISCONNECT such as ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, ADDICTIONS, and all symptoms are the KEYS to solving the MYSTERY of CAUSE.  In today's Show Dr. Judy talked about how a mother healed her daughter's separation anxiety by helping her heal the ORIGINAL WOUND of childhood disconnect--returning to work too soon after her daughter was born. Dr. Judy, a proponent of Dr. John Bowlby's ATTACHMENT THEORY discussed the importance of CONSISTENT MOTHERING in order to create a healthy human psyche and prevent what she calls the formation of the HOLE IN THE SOUL.   THE DARKNESS of INFILTRATIONS, the psychological shadows from early childhood disconnect us from  HUMAN CONNECTION and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, the most powerful healing force and  CURE.  Using the MATRIX (theme song) of the MIND MAP, Dr. Judy teaches you a new and visual language to help you identify your injuries, your reactions, and your solutions, and take you out of the DOUBLE DUNGEON of DARKNESS WITHIN  and open the door to your LIGHT.  Today she applied the MIND MAP to analyze THE CAUSE of Amanda Byne's acting out behavior and her displacement of her anger at CAUSE (her "ugly old" parents), and instead turned her anger inward by lighting herself on fire, and outward, by acting out on an older woman's driveway in her home city of Thousand Oaks.    Our childhood is like a HOSTAGE SITUATION, says Dr. Judy.  EIther we are under the power of tyrants or benevolent dictators--usually a little of both.  Either way, we are NOT the Cause of the first few years of our life and we ARE the cause of the next chapter and she will show you how to BE that CAUSE.  In a world of HUMAN DISCONNECT, we all need a MIND MAP to take us out of our DARKNESS and back to our LIGHT.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 25 Jul 2013 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
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        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy rosenberg,dr judy wtf,ubn radio,radio,pschology,BE THE CAUSE,HUMAN DISCONNECT,PARADIGM SHIFT,INTERCONNECTION  RECONNECTION,UNITY,DEFENSE MECHANISMS,SYMPTOMS,ANXIETY,DEPRES,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[BECAUSE OF YOU]]></title>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 01 Aug 2013 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:52:49</itunes:duration>
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        <title><![CDATA[DEPRESSION:  Anger turned inward!]]></title>
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        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Another day on the couch with Dr. Judy and her host Walt Lusk! Today's topic:  DEPRESSION:  Anger turned inward!  What happens when we fall into the deep dark hole of depression? Why does that occur?  If you've been tuning in to her previous episodes, yo]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Another day on the couch with Dr. Judy and her host Walt Lusk! Today's topic:  DEPRESSION:  Anger turned inward!  What happens when we fall into the deep dark hole of depression? Why does that occur?  If you've been tuning in to her previous episodes, you now get the drift....all symptoms result from the WOUND of disconnect--MOTHER-INFANT DISCONNECT.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 29 Aug 2013 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:13</itunes:duration>
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        <title><![CDATA[HABIT MAKING/HABIT BREAKING and SUSTAINABILITY]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[It is the new year and new year's resolutions quickly get tossed to the curb. 
Today we discussed HOW TO make sure you can sustain your habit,
WHERE bad habits---bad defense mechanisms originate from,
WHAT to do about negative core beliefs that trigger y]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[It is the new year and new year's resolutions quickly get tossed to the curb. 
Today we discussed HOW TO make sure you can sustain your habit,
WHERE bad habits---bad defense mechanisms originate from,
WHAT to do about negative core beliefs that trigger your bad habits, and
HOW TO form better habits that nourish your MIND BODY SOUL.
Dr. Judy's MIND MAP demonstrates how to form SUSTAINABLE SYSTEMS for long term success.
 
Today we SHRUNK THE TUNE:  "Breaking the Habit" By Linkin Park]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 02 Jan 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:34</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Disney Loved Orphans or He Hated Mother]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Our stories, fairytales are the collective connection to our unconscious. Within stories like Mary Poppins, Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, and many other wonderful Disney productions lie the underlying story of childhood wounds of motherlessness, abusive s]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Our stories, fairytales are the collective connection to our unconscious. Within stories like Mary Poppins, Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, and many other wonderful Disney productions lie the underlying story of childhood wounds of motherlessness, abusive stepmothers (Cinderella), nanny's that heal childhood emotional neglect (Mary Poppins), bad mirroring from narcissistic maternal figures (Sleeping Beauty and the mirror mirror) and many other childhood wounds of neglect and abuse. The storytellers themselves, often troubled and traumatized try to bring us healing through their HOLE IN THE SOUL which they spin into creative gems for us to connect with throughout time.  These ageless stories can help us heal our childhood wounds through fantasy and happy endings, and become victorious over life's harsh wounds. Today, we shrunk the tune: JUST A SPOONFULL OF SUGAR HELPS THE MEDICINE GO DOWN]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 16 Jan 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:07</itunes:duration>
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        <title><![CDATA[Walking On Egg Shells]]></title>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 23 Jan 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:48</itunes:duration>
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        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[I HATE YOU. I HATE YOU. DONT LEAVE ME!!]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a very painful disorder marked by deep seated fears of real or imaginary abandonment.  CAUSED by mother-infant bonding-gone-wrong, persons suffering from BPD exhibit a lot of acting out behavior in the form of lac]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a very painful disorder marked by deep seated fears of real or imaginary abandonment.  CAUSED by mother-infant bonding-gone-wrong, persons suffering from BPD exhibit a lot of acting out behavior in the form of lack of impulse control in the area of sexual behavior, shopping, driving too fast, or even cutting themselves. Most BPD's are female.  Because they never developed the ability to regulate their emotions through experiencing consistent nurturing in early infancy, they are prone to relying on other's for their self esteem.  When others fail them, they may go into a borderline rage and hurt themselves.  The HOLE IN THE SOUL makes them feel empty and meaningless, so their self image is in constant flux. Typically the BPD is attracted to the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, who are typically male and lack empathy.  When the two get together, there is a re enactment of the triggering of the early childhood wound and the more the Narcissist rejects the Borderline, the more they do their pathological dance.This is truly a "match made in hell." Today we Shrunk That Tune by Madonna titled: Borderline]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 30 Jan 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:52</itunes:duration>
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        <title><![CDATA[Preemie Incubator Babies -  Bonding Interrupted]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[The mother-infant disconnect of babies placed in incubators can have profound consequences on the mental health of individuals who Dr. Judy refers to as.]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[The mother-infant disconnect of babies placed in incubators can have profound consequences on the mental health of individuals who Dr. Judy refers to as.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 06 Feb 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:28</itunes:duration>
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        <title><![CDATA[MATTERS OF THE HEART:  VALENTINE'S DAY SERIES 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today's Valentine's Day special focused on MATTERS OF THE HEART.
 Falling in "love" is also falling into vulnerability.  When two become one, there is a risk of repeating old wounds that can re-injure the heart.
 
As adults, we still need the same elemen]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today's Valentine's Day special focused on MATTERS OF THE HEART.
 Falling in "love" is also falling into vulnerability.  When two become one, there is a risk of repeating old wounds that can re-injure the heart.
 
As adults, we still need the same elements we needed during the first few years of life:  touch, eye to eye contact, mirroring, and feelings of being cared for and understood on deeper levels. 
Unconditional Love, the most healing force on the planet is not always unconditional.  
If we don't treat each other with kindness, respect and regard, the bonds that brought us together will not hold up over time. 
Love that sustains must be built on foundations that are more than fleeting, and if we don't do the work of putting effort into our relationships, we shouldn't expect them to sustain on their own.
 
The 5 love languages:  words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch are some of the ways of holding the love bonds together, but without the three C's -- chemistry, character, and communication, love bonds won't sustain over time.
 
Today we shrunk the tune "If I Fell" by the Beatles, the king of love songs.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 13 Feb 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:53</itunes:duration>
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        <title><![CDATA[Matters of the Heart - 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[When it comes to matters of the heart, it is vital that we put our hands in the heart of another where the feelings flow both ways.  The word is MUTUALITY.  To have a healthy loving relationship, it must be reciprocal or else one will feel like they are ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[When it comes to matters of the heart, it is vital that we put our hands in the heart of another where the feelings flow both ways.  The word is MUTUALITY.  To have a healthy loving relationship, it must be reciprocal or else one will feel like they are "taken from" as the other may feel that they are "giving too much."     Although men and problem solvers and women love to be heard, there is always a language of mutuality where things can be negotiated so that there is created an interconnection and needs are met.  THIS is what we are after, and have always been after.  From the beginning of life, we want connection, unconditional love, to be attuned to, and safety.  When we get into a relationship and any of these aspects are missing, it calls up the old files of mother-infant disconnect, the beginning of all emotional wounds.   Relationships CAN be healing.  We can grow through old wounds and help each other heal in the context of a loving, safe, mutually satisfying relationship where we can help our loved one have a corrective emotional experience.   Remembering on Valentine's Day and Always, Love, is the most powerful and under-utilized healing force on the Planet.   Today, we shrunk the tune DO I WANNA KNOW by the Arctic Monkeys]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 20 Feb 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:38</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Fetishes - Sex Gone Sideways]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[We finish February, Valentine's month discussing FETISHES and S&M is another example of Human Disconnect.  When bonding to humans is just too painful, it is easier to redirect that energy to objects.  After all, objects can't break your heart, right?  A ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[We finish February, Valentine's month discussing FETISHES and S&M is another example of Human Disconnect.  When bonding to humans is just too painful, it is easier to redirect that energy to objects.  After all, objects can't break your heart, right?  A classical case of classical conditioning, when sexuality and the Big O is paired with visual or tactile stimuli like shoes, or leather, just about ANYTHING, the brain makes that association and the object becomes the "cue" for the arousal.     In sadomasochistic relationships there is an enactment of the hurter and the hurtee--another example of bonding gone wrong at CAUSE--Mother-Infant disconnect.  When we are infants and out of control over our lives and our safety and our ability to control pain, we will often re-enact it in a WTF or What The Freud Repetition manner.   The role play allows us to gain control of possible past wounds of childhood.  Bondage, like childhood is a hostage situation, meaning that we have no choice who our parents are, how we are treated, and mostly NO CONTROL over it.  Through S&M we can voluntarily control the actions and pain.   Today we shrunk the tune ROPE BURN by Janet Jackson.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 27 Feb 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:52:21</itunes:duration>
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        <title><![CDATA[HEART HEALER OR HEADSHRINKER? THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE REALLY UGLY OF THERAPISTS]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Red flags that your therapist needs to be fired, or at least told that the therapy is going nowhere is when:  He or she does not give you a clear indication of the PLAN, looks at the clock more often than he or she looks at YOU, makes you feel guilty and]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Red flags that your therapist needs to be fired, or at least told that the therapy is going nowhere is when:  He or she does not give you a clear indication of the PLAN, looks at the clock more often than he or she looks at YOU, makes you feel guilty and shameful about your behavior, tells you what to do even against your letting him or her know that it doesn't feel right, and continuing to allow you to vent your feeling without helping you learn to help yourself.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 06 Mar 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:42</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[ANIMALS AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE:  DOG IS GOD SPELLED BACKWARD]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Our intuitive and "attuned to nature" animals are our role models for parenting gone "right."  We, as a human species have moved further and further away from nature and nurture.  Instead of following our animal instincts and connecting to our infants, w]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Our intuitive and "attuned to nature" animals are our role models for parenting gone "right."  We, as a human species have moved further and further away from nature and nurture.  Instead of following our animal instincts and connecting to our infants, we oftentimes, and sometimes inadvertently "disconnect" from them, sometimes immediately after birth.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 13 Mar 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:31</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[THE GOOD BAD AND UGLY OF THERAPISTS  PART 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Brain science and cutting edge psychology confirms that loving relationships heal, and that attuning yourself with your significant other increases your mental and emotional health, along with lengthening your lifespan.  The mind and body interact to cre]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Brain science and cutting edge psychology confirms that loving relationships heal, and that attuning yourself with your significant other increases your mental and emotional health, along with lengthening your lifespan.  The mind and body interact to create stronger healthier brain chemistry as we form interconnected webs of relationships.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 20 Mar 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:48</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - March 27, 2014]]></title>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:52</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[HAPPINESS 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Rather than be slings and arrows to life's ups and downs, we need to have an internal mechanism of regulating our state of Being.  When we depend ONLY on outside events to make us happy or unhappy, we become "at the effect of" rather than being the CAUSE]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Rather than be slings and arrows to life's ups and downs, we need to have an internal mechanism of regulating our state of Being.  When we depend ONLY on outside events to make us happy or unhappy, we become "at the effect of" rather than being the CAUSE of the outcome of our lives.   Wisdom masters know that inner peace can be achieved through meditation and other ways of slowing down the mind's chatter and focusing our attention on our inner world.  When we are preoccupied with licking our emotional wounds from childhood, it is difficult to self sooth and self regulate enough to calm down.  THIS is where we have to become wise and invest in peace, wisdom, and a satisfying life over just a HAPPY life consisting of good and bad things happening to us.   Yes, it IS possible to create a rich inner world of peace, balance, and unconditional self love.  Remembering always, Unconditional Love is the most powerful healing force on the planet.  Why not use it.   Today we shrunk the tune.. "Lovely Day"  by  Bill  Withers.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 03 Apr 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:21</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[SELF TALK: The Power of OUR Inner Words]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Our self talk is a function of our core belief about ourselves.  Our core belief about ourselves is a function of how we were treated or mistreated particularly during the early formative years of the first 2-3 years of our life.]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Our self talk is a function of our core belief about ourselves.  Our core belief about ourselves is a function of how we were treated or mistreated particularly during the early formative years of the first 2-3 years of our life.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:37</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Mind Map  -  Panel One  -  Childhood is a Hostage Situation]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[The wounds of childhood cast a shadow over our lives that leave us with what Dr. Judy calls "the hole in the soul."  These wounds are either overt--what is done to us, like physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, or covert, what we did not get, such as in ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[The wounds of childhood cast a shadow over our lives that leave us with what Dr. Judy calls "the hole in the soul."  These wounds are either overt--what is done to us, like physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, or covert, what we did not get, such as in the case of physical or emotional neglect.  As infants, we are like sponges, soaking in the universe, and we self define by seeing ourselves in the eyes of Mother, or primary caregiver. If what is reflected back is darkness, we come to believe that we are "less than."  According to attachment theory, we need touch, eye contact, consistency, and emotional attunement.  Babies do not know how to self soothe, so letting them cry it out is a sure way to create insecure attachment and an anxious individual. Panel 1, The Wound, lays down the CAUSE of all psychopathology--human disconnect, in this case Mother/Infant disconnect.  The wound is multigenerational in nature as many generations before us we become "infiltrated" by the wounds of the previous generation. Panel 1 is the SOURCE of all our problems of psychopathology.   Today we SHRUNK THE TUNE:  "Radioactive"  by Imagine Dragons]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 17 Apr 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:52:58</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Panel 2:  The Reaction to the Wounds of Childhood]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:29</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Are we Wired for Love?]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we had a special guest, Dr. Stan Tatkin, author of Wired For Love, and founder of Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT).. PACT a fusion of attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation, PACT is quickly gaining a]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we had a special guest, Dr. Stan Tatkin, author of Wired For Love, and founder of Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT).. PACT a fusion of attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation, PACT is quickly gaining a reputation for effectively treating couples formerly thought of as untreatable.  As we ENCODE our self esteem into the fiber of our Being, it is important for us to enter relationships that are safe and know how to attune to our feelings.  All of us have areas where we feel "less than."  In a relationship "couple bubble" as Dr. Tatkin talks about, couples have an owner's manual on each other and learn to create emotional safety within this special union.  Couples who are safe know how to protect each other from the harsh realities of the outer world. When we pick a partner to bond with, we must ensure that there are no "deal breakers."  Obvious ones are ethical violations of a relationship, such as cheating, or being out of integrity in any way.  Short of that, couples can learn to navigate their individual styles and agree to form a WE that works synergistically.  By learning how our partners are wired and how their brain works, we can attune to them and ensure that they will be safe within the relationship. Today we SHRUNK THE TUNE Self Esteem by Offspring.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 01 May 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:28</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[HOW OUR ADVERSE SELF-PERCEPTIONS ARE CREATED & IMBEDDED.]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we spoke about the ENCODING of the core belief into the fiber of our being.  Mostly negative, it sets us up for chaos down the road (preview of the coming attraction of the next panel).
We have seen how the mother/infant disconnect sets the stage f]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we spoke about the ENCODING of the core belief into the fiber of our being.  Mostly negative, it sets us up for chaos down the road (preview of the coming attraction of the next panel).
We have seen how the mother/infant disconnect sets the stage for our lives. We have seen how the father/mother and father/infant relationship can either become our saving grace or can entomb us inside of ourselves locked in the double dungeon of darkness.
We witness how the thoughts, behaviors, and feelings generated in our early infancy begin to take shape forming the patterns that will develop and influence habits, attitudes, and inevitably lifestyle.
As these patterns repeat over time during our childhood, they reinforce our specific conduct, actions, and viewpoint.  Inevitably, these complex arrangements groove deeply into our consciousness forming a DNA blueprint of our destiny. You could say that this design draft becomes the window on how we experience the world and ourselves.
This becomes our ???core belief.???
Common ones are "I'm not lovable, I'm powerless, I'm stupid, I'm not important."  When these beliefs rule our lives, life becomes emotionally painful.
Today we Shrunk the tune, "Encoding" by Pendulum]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 08 May 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:34</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,dr judy rosenberg,walt lusk,DOUBLE DUNGEON,ENTOMB,THOUGHT,BEHAVIORS,FEELINGS,INFANCY,HABITS,ATTITUDES,CORE BELIEFS,DNA,BLUEPRINT,DESTINY,ENCODING,CHAOS,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[PANEL 4:  CHAOS]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[When the bonds of Panel 3, which represent our dysfunctional core belief, core sense of self, and relationships are no longer sustainable, they force us to go to the PRECIPICE--a place where we have a choice point to allow to life to dismantle us reactiv]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[When the bonds of Panel 3, which represent our dysfunctional core belief, core sense of self, and relationships are no longer sustainable, they force us to go to the PRECIPICE--a place where we have a choice point to allow to life to dismantle us reactively, or for us to dismantle our old dysfunctional self.  The alcoholic, for example has to decide to go to AA (proactive) or die of live disease.  The smoker has to take charge of her addiction ( www.esmoke2quit.com ) for my stop smoking book) or risk emphysema or cancer.  You get the  picture. Chaos signifies a ???falling away??? from the comfort zone of apathy and complacency, well beyond the ensnarement of dysfunction and discord. This dropping away, although seemingly fierce and threatening with its foreign and disorienting nature, actually embodies your greatest ally, the opportunity to reconstruct yourself into a stronger, healthier and more sustainable you.As we continue the journey through the MIND MAP ( www.DrJudyWTF.com ), you may want to begin to examine your old dysfunctional coding and see what you want to have "fall away" from the fiber of your Being.Today we Shrunk The Tune:  BREAKDOWN, by Jack Johnson.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 15 May 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:12</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Panel 5  -  Defense Mechanisms]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[When the pain of mother infant disconnect is allowed to go untreated, defense mechanisms kick in.  These defense mechanisms defend against the original wound and can take many shapes and sizes.  For example, overeating, smoking, alcohol/drug abuse, porn,]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[When the pain of mother infant disconnect is allowed to go untreated, defense mechanisms kick in.  These defense mechanisms defend against the original wound and can take many shapes and sizes.  For example, overeating, smoking, alcohol/drug abuse, porn, shopping, and even OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) can act as defense mechanisms against human pain and suffering.Although some defense mechanisms are healthy such as exercise, eating right, and good boundaries to keep out the bad, many defense mechanisms end up taking from you more than protecting you in the long run.  Eating you from the inside out, they trap you into a dungeon of limitations and stunt your growth. By cleaning out the original wound, we can then more comfortably let go of these defense mechanisms as we find that we have nothing to defend against in the here and now.  Updating old defenses and seeing that the threat is no longer there is a big part of the healing process.  Today we Shrunk the Tune:  Savoy Truffles (sp?) by the Beatles.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 22 May 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:52:24</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Author Misti B]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we had a wonderful guest, Misti B. who just released her first book: If You Leave Me, Can I Come With You?  365 Humorous Daily Meditations for Al-Anons &  Codependents.  Bringing humor to Al-Anon, a 12 Step Group for individuals who come from alcoh]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we had a wonderful guest, Misti B. who just released her first book: If You Leave Me, Can I Come With You?  365 Humorous Daily Meditations for Al-Anons &  Codependents.  Bringing humor to Al-Anon, a 12 Step Group for individuals who come from alcoholic families or who are dealing with people in their lives suffering from Alcohol-ISM is a very unique concept.  As Misti says, it's usually the alcoholic that is having all the "fun" and the other co-dependents that assume all the less fun functions of responsibility.    The book has 365 interesting messages for every day of the year, in line with the "One Day At A Time" philosophy of Al-Anon and other 12 Step Programs.  Whenever we get stuck in an "ISM" or a life challenge, it is a known fact that humor releases chemicals into the body that help us heal.  It is a must read for anyone who has ever experienced a family member with alcohol.    Today we Shrunk That Tune: "If You Leave Me Now," by Chicago.    We will definitely have Misti B. back when she finishes her next book.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 29 May 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:25</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[PANEL 6 BREAKDOWN/BREAKTHROUGH]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[The shooting at UCSB is a prime example of a breakdown of all defense mechanisms (PANEL 5) and a representation of how emotional suppression can cause explosions (the shootings) and implosions (the suicide).  Not knowing the first few years of Elliot Rog]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[The shooting at UCSB is a prime example of a breakdown of all defense mechanisms (PANEL 5) and a representation of how emotional suppression can cause explosions (the shootings) and implosions (the suicide).  Not knowing the first few years of Elliot Roger's life, we can only surmise that the killer was severely wounded in PANEL 1 (The Wound of Childhood).]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>85677</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:02</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[PANEL 7  -  INTERCONNECTION]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[The power of interconnection can only occur when two healthy (or relatively healthy parts) can come together to SHARE THE LIGHT.  This is different than COMPROMISE.  Interconnection means taking your gifts and sharing with another to create a third entit]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[The power of interconnection can only occur when two healthy (or relatively healthy parts) can come together to SHARE THE LIGHT.  This is different than COMPROMISE.  Interconnection means taking your gifts and sharing with another to create a third entity--the 1+1 = 3 phenomenon.  Here is where SYNERGY can occur.  On a more negative perspective, sometimes people can rob each other's LIGHT.  When one attaches, or leaches onto another a VAMPIRE effect occurs, and there could be a robbing of the LIGHT. You can know when you're being VAMPIRED when you feel LESS THAN--drained, tired used.  Codependency is a good example. When the best and highest YOU of you and the best and highest ME of me come together, creation occurs.  A new idea, a new product, a fresh philosophy. YOU get the picture.  I call the "PLUS 3 Phenomenon" a paradigm shift.  Rather than seeing through the eyes of the old infiltrated and wounded self, a new and CLEAR EYE perspective can be had.  SEEING THROUGH this clear perspective shifts everything into the LIGHT OF THE TRUTH, or the LIGHT OF THE CREATIVE POWER into focus.  It is only then that we can reboot ourselves into health and leave the multigenerational darkness behind.  Today we SHRUNK;  Jack White  -  "Love Is Blindness" from the movie, The Great Gatsby.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 12 Jun 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:58:40</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - June 19, 2014]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 19 Jun 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:16</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[PANEL 8 RECODING]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[After all the work of taking down the old unsustainable system encoded from the wounds of childhood, we come to a place where we can recode and heal. 
The new codes are based on sustainability and health, sharing and caring.  Notice the rung of people cl]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[After all the work of taking down the old unsustainable system encoded from the wounds of childhood, we come to a place where we can recode and heal. 
The new codes are based on sustainability and health, sharing and caring.  Notice the rung of people climbing up the ladder of Panel 8.
 
They are evolving, and helping each other get to the next level.  Without community, friends, family, and the Unconditional Support of others, we cannot do it alone. 
BEWARE THOUGH of those who pretend to lend a helping hand but have another agenda in mind.
 
Born out of the consciousness of vampiring, they are there to take your hand bite it off.  They are the Ponzi schemers and just plain old sociopaths and no-do
gooders out to get you.  They start by becoming your "best friend" and affinity fraud (a new term for forming an affinity of friendship with the person and then
stabbing them in the back when they are vulnerable) you right out of your possessions.
 
Today we Shrunk That Tune:   Backstabbers by the O'Jays.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 26 Jun 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:52:49</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Panel 8 - Part 2  -  OUT WITH THE OLD, IN WITH THE NEW]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Community, sharing, connecting ourselves with others. That's how we elevate ourselves and others around us.  As we move out of the "old unsustainable systems" and into the paradigm shift of interconnection, we can reconnect and "recode" ourselves.]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Community, sharing, connecting ourselves with others. That's how we elevate ourselves and others around us.  As we move out of the "old unsustainable systems" and into the paradigm shift of interconnection, we can reconnect and "recode" ourselves.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 03 Jul 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:46</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Panel 9  -  TOMORROW IS THE LIFE WE CREATE TODAY]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[The state of our planet is a mirror of our inner world. Early infant mother-infant disconnect now projects outward onto MOTHER EARTH and look around---
the earth, the air, the waters, spitting back at us the garbage we throw at her.
 
We are angry, wound]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[The state of our planet is a mirror of our inner world. Early infant mother-infant disconnect now projects outward onto MOTHER EARTH and look around---
the earth, the air, the waters, spitting back at us the garbage we throw at her.
 
We are angry, wounded and have projected this anger at the very essence of what is our physical support system.  Our hole in our soul appears as holes in the ozone. 
Our dark infiltrations are scattered across our planet in the form of pollution.  Whether we like it or not, we are ALL interconnected and must share this planet peacefully to survive.
 
How can we be givers to the community, how can we nurture MOTHER EARTH and maintain her balance when we are so unbalanced?
It is our duty to heal from the inside out, so that we can manifest a cleaner, healthier planet?
 
 
Through INTERCONNECTION, RECONNECTION and UNITY we find LIGHT in the synergistic essence of COMMUNITY and a UNITED HUMANITY,
a dream we must strive together to create.
 
Today we Shrunk The Tune "Flaws" by Bastille, and completed the 9 Panel MIND MAP Journey FROM the darkness, THROUGH the darkness and TO the Light.
We appreciate your taking this journey with us.  Brought to you with U.L. -- Unconditional Love, the most healing force on the Planet.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 10 Jul 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:46</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[FATHERS  -  Forgive Them For They Know Not What They Do?]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Although most of what we talk about is the importance of Mother, we cannot ignore the tremendous impact of the Father on the mental health of the child.  From his participation in the labor room to nourishing the Mother and nurturing her through her care]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Although most of what we talk about is the importance of Mother, we cannot ignore the tremendous impact of the Father on the mental health of the child.  From his participation in the labor room to nourishing the Mother and nurturing her through her caretaking period, he can be the Giver to she who has to Give to her infant.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 17 Jul 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:51</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Live Call #1 with]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we had the pleasure and privilege of interviewing "Maria" so that all listening can really experience Dr. Judy trace the early wound of Mother-Infant Disconnect, through the reaction of the wound, and to the encoding of the wound into Maria's negat]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we had the pleasure and privilege of interviewing "Maria" so that all listening can really experience Dr. Judy trace the early wound of Mother-Infant Disconnect, through the reaction of the wound, and to the encoding of the wound into Maria's negative core belief.
 
It was noted that when Father is emotionally or physically absent, the Mother does not receive the necessary support needed to then pay the nurturing forward to her infant, causing a "disconnect."  Coupled with her being brought up in Eastern Europe, Germany in particular during the World War II era, it is also notable that the extreme levels of danger surrounding her and her family impacted the stress levels of her parents which then trickled down to her.
 
The blueprint of mental health was filled with stress, abandonment, danger from the outside, and lay the groundwork for anxiety and depression.  "Maria's" core belief of worthlessness. "She is not important," is the mental prison she is challenged with and needs to be released from.
 
Stay tuned for our next part of the process:  FROM:  THE DISMANTLING OF THE PROBLEM (the core belief) as we continue our MIND MAP journey with Maria.
 
Today we Shrunk the Tune: "Disconnect" by Pink.  What an appropriate title for this show!]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 24 Jul 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:07</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[ISMANTLING OF THE PROBLEM: THROUGH With our call in patient]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[We continue with our "session" with our patient "Maria" who reports that she is feeling a sense of relief, and experiencing many insights into the Cause of her distress from our first time together last week.  (If you missed it, to back and listen to it.]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[We continue with our "session" with our patient "Maria" who reports that she is feeling a sense of relief, and experiencing many insights into the Cause of her distress from our first time together last week.  (If you missed it, to back and listen to it.).  Last week we discovered her core belief is, "I am not important."  Could that be you?)
 
As we move FROM the problem and her negative core belief that she is unimportant, and begin to chip away at it, the logical mind starts understanding that we are not our core beliefs.  In order for her emotions to "get" the message on a deeper level, Maria needs the logic of the Mind Map to help her understand how this core belief came to be and begin to let go the lies of the past.
 
The Chaos created from these lies were many, including choosing unhealthy relationships.  Her defense mechanisms include being a bit obsessive, as a way to gain control over her out of control emotions.  As we deal with her shame of her inability to move out of her problem and feel stuck in life, Maria is starting to understand that we are not meant to do it alone, and that we are wired for relationships and support.
 
Today we Shrunk the Tune, "Pressure" By David Bowie and Queen.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 31 Jul 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:46</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Our Final call with Maria - Part 4]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Thanks to our volunteer patient Maria, we have been able to journey FROM, THROUGH, and finally TO the paradigm shift into healing.
 
Maria has been very transparent in her sharing her journey with us, and we want to thank her for allowing us to show how ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Thanks to our volunteer patient Maria, we have been able to journey FROM, THROUGH, and finally TO the paradigm shift into healing.
 
Maria has been very transparent in her sharing her journey with us, and we want to thank her for allowing us to show how the Be The Cause system for Healing Human Disconnect works.  From her core belief prison of "I am not important," to present day, Maria feels lighter, and more released from the poisons of the past. Having gone through several therapies, she candidly states that for her it was best not to skirt around the feelings, but to get right into them and through them.
 
Where she was--stuck, blocked, depressed, and hopeless, is not where she is--committed to having a more authentic and expressed Part 2 of her life.  Maria sees herself moving forward with her plans, knowing that she no longer has to blame, shame, and guilt herself for her True Feelings: Angry and hopeless about being raised by parents who failed her emotionally and left her feeling alone, and un-attuned to.
 
Maria understands that she can now put herself as #1, become more self compassionate, and Be the Cause of the rest of her life through loving herself unconditionally.
 
As a symbol the paradigm shift out of the darkness and into the Light, we shrunk the tune "Good Day Sunshine," by the Beatles.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 07 Aug 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:21</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - August 14, 2014]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 14 Aug 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:59:26</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Defying Gravity by Breaking Free from Narcissistic Mothers]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[On today's episode we talked about a very core injury to the self--being raised by a narcissistic mother or caregiver.
 
According to the natural flow of things, the child, not the mother should come first.  When this order is disrupted, the child become]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[On today's episode we talked about a very core injury to the self--being raised by a narcissistic mother or caregiver.
 
According to the natural flow of things, the child, not the mother should come first.  When this order is disrupted, the child becomes the adult in the relationship, and the child's needs are not met.  Narcissistic mothers try to divert the discussion away from you to talk about herself, or "top" her feelings with yours.  They lack compassion and empathy and in general know to demean, devalue and destroy.  In essence, they leave you feeling very "little" and unimportant.
 
Today we Shrunk the Tune: "You're So Vain," by Carly Simon.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 21 Aug 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:32</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Defying Gravity by Breaking Free from Narcissistic Mothers  -  Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Demean, Devalue, Destroy. The three D's of a narcissistic mother makes it difficult to be her child.   Many people who grew up with narcissistic mothers feel like they are merely extensions of her, and are there to suit HER needs, verses the other way ar]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Demean, Devalue, Destroy. The three D's of a narcissistic mother makes it difficult to be her child.   Many people who grew up with narcissistic mothers feel like they are merely extensions of her, and are there to suit HER needs, verses the other way around.  Others feel she was an emotional bully. 
 
Childhood survivors of these kinds of mothers or parents leave them feeling "less than" in the self esteem department.  Speaking over their words, stealing the show, and bringing the topic back to THEM are just some of the behaviors these children have to put up with.
 
Let us not forget that the NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) too is suffering.  As much as they seem confident, the opposite is true. Underneath the exterior is an insecure wounded child who needs to be the center of attention to survive.  
 
Today we Shrunk the Tune, "Vanity", by Christina Aguillare.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>85689</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 28 Aug 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:02</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - September 04, 2014]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>85690</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 04 Sep 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:54</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - September 18, 2014]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>85691</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 18 Sep 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:13</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[BOUNDARIES: ???How to Have Tact with a Suitor You Don?????t Want to See???]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[What do we do when we have to say NO to a person who wants to say YES to us?  This is a delicate issue, in that we don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, and yet we need to set boundaries.]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[What do we do when we have to say NO to a person who wants to say YES to us?  This is a delicate issue, in that we don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, and yet we need to set boundaries.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>85692</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 02 Oct 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:25</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - October 09 2014]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>85693</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 09 Oct 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:31</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - October 16, 2014]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>85694</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 16 Oct 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:58</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[UNCONDITIONAL LOVE]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we had the pleasure of speaking to Dr. Zohara M. Hieronimus, author of her most recent book, The Future of Human Experience. 
 
The power of prayer and the power of unconditional love are the most healing forces on the planet.  According to Zohara,]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we had the pleasure of speaking to Dr. Zohara M. Hieronimus, author of her most recent book, The Future of Human Experience. 
 
The power of prayer and the power of unconditional love are the most healing forces on the planet.  According to Zohara, when we honor ourselves and use our senses to get the most out of life, we remove limitations and soar higher.
 
A student of many forms of spirituality Zohara has much information about the power of prayer, and even HOW TO pray, the power of growing crops and even WHEN TO plant them, and how to utilize the forces of the universe to better ourselves.
 
Today we Shrunk the Tune: "Shed A Little Light", by James Taylor]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:08</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE?]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we had the privilege of having Aaron Lamont Curry, author of his brand new book "Why Are You Still Single."
 
When you love and respect yourself, you are no longer willing to settle, and avoid wasting time by dating Mr. or Mrs. WRONG.  When we do n]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we had the privilege of having Aaron Lamont Curry, author of his brand new book "Why Are You Still Single."
 
When you love and respect yourself, you are no longer willing to settle, and avoid wasting time by dating Mr. or Mrs. WRONG.  When we do not take the time to become whole and complete within ourselves (a lifetime journey) we walk around as though we need another to complete us.
 
What became clear in this interview is the importance of honoring and loving ourselves and treating ourselves to help and well being.  In times where casual sex and throw away relationships are the norm, it was refreshing to know that there are people out there who value themselves enough to share their mind body and soul only with people who are worthy of being great partners.
 
For those of you who want to get dating ready:  Go to Dr. Judy's website www.GetDatingReady.com and take a look at how to value yourself and others.
 
We Shrunk The Tune: "Single" by Natasha Bedingfield]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>85696</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 30 Oct 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:52:29</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[The passive aggressive person]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[The passive aggressive person is a fear based individual low suffering from low self esteem poor communication skills. When people grow up in a homewhere it is unsafe to express authentic feelings, when there is no otherway to express feelings of anger, ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[The passive aggressive person is a fear based individual low suffering from low self esteem poor communication skills. When people grow up in a homewhere it is unsafe to express authentic feelings, when there is no otherway to express feelings of anger, they can develop a passive aggressivestyle as their way of releasing their anger and coping with an environmentunsupportive of authentic expression of feelings. To deal with this personality disorder it is important to be direct. When faced with this personality type, don't take it personally, but don't take it lying downeither. Set boundaries and give consequences and the person will have to face up to their behavior and realize that they are busted.Typical passive aggressive behaviors include: Procrastinating, doing poorwork and playing victim when confronted about it, not acknowledging what you requested, doing the opposite of what you asked of them, or simply blowing you off with a "whateverrrrrr" attitude.You may find yourself getting angry at them, and feeling controlled bythem. If you ask them if they are angry, they may respond by denying that they are, and make you doubt your gut feelings. Trust your gut as they may be projecting their anger into you so that they can control and manipulate you.Today we Shrunk the Tune: "Some Day, I'm Gonna Getcha......" by Blondie.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>85698</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 13 Nov 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:03</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Loneliness - Part 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[One can be lonely even when with someone.  Because Human Disconnect is so prominent. Just look at how many people prefer to be on their computers, cell phones, and in general move further and further away from what we need a as a human race to feel healt]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[One can be lonely even when with someone.  Because Human Disconnect is so prominent. Just look at how many people prefer to be on their computers, cell phones, and in general move further and further away from what we need a as a human race to feel healthy--touch, eye contact, and EMOTIONAL CONNECTION.  We are creating a lonely and isolating system around us.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 20 Nov 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:51:06</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Loneliness 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Loneliness doesn't necessarily mean we are ALONE.  We can be WITH someone and still experience a state of loneliness.  We are wired to connect and we don't feel that we are "gotten" by another, we may feel triggered in the core of our injured "inner chil]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Loneliness doesn't necessarily mean we are ALONE.  We can be WITH someone and still experience a state of loneliness.  We are wired to connect and we don't feel that we are "gotten" by another, we may feel triggered in the core of our injured "inner child" and react to the disconnect by shutting down.  
 
During the holidays it is particularly important to spend time with people we love, people who "get" us, and people who we feel unconditionally loved by.  Unconditional Love, the most powerful healing force in the universe is the antidote to feeling our "hole in the soul" emptiness.
 
Have compassion for yourself and understand that if you are feeling lonely, you can proactively DO something to reach out to others and interconnect.  Sometimes when we initiate connection and help another to feel wanted, we reap the benefits of fulfilling ourselves.  I call that a WIN-WIN. Go to the MIND MAP at www.DrJudyWTF and look at Panel 7, interconnection and see what LIGHT can be generated when we interconnect with others!
 
Today we Shrunk That Tune:  Hello Darkness My Old Friend" by Simon and Garfunkel.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>85700</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 04 Dec 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:50:010</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Holiday Depression]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[2.  Avoid family conflict  The conflicts aren't going away any time soon, so you might as well avoid entering into emotionally heated discussions. If you must talk about delicate issues, use my PEACEFUL HEALING DIALOGUE (available at www.DrjJdyWTF.com un]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[2.  Avoid family conflict  The conflicts aren't going away any time soon, so you might as well avoid entering into emotionally heated discussions. If you must talk about delicate issues, use my PEACEFUL HEALING DIALOGUE (available at www.DrjJdyWTF.com under Forms)]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 11 Dec 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:17</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy wtf,ubn radio,Paradigm Shift,Healing Human Disconnect,Authentic,Blame,Shame,Guilt,Angry,Hopeless,Alone,Attuned,Self Compassion,Be The Cause,Mind Map,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[The Gift of Giving]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[When we give, we get.  We get the joy of connecting with others and making a difference.  Those who give and volunteer their time are healthier, happier, and live longer.  The most valuable gift we can give another is our time and attention, so don't fee]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[When we give, we get.  We get the joy of connecting with others and making a difference.  Those who give and volunteer their time are healthier, happier, and live longer.  The most valuable gift we can give another is our time and attention, so don't feel like giving has to mean spending money! Hugs are free and lower blood pressure, heartbeat, and overall make us feel safe and less stressed.  Just as Attachment Theory suggests, we need containment and we are wired to connect.  No different than when we were infants, we still need all the emotional "ingredients" we needed then--touch, eye contact, consistency, and a sense of being attuned to.   This season go out of your way to be a giver and get that you make a significant difference to someone's life.   Today we Shrunk That Tune, "The Little Drummer Boy"  by Bing Crosby and David Bowie.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 18 Dec 2014 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:34</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - March 12, 2015]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 12 Mar 2015 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:00:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - March 19, 2015]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 19 Mar 2015 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:00:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,judy rosenberg,walt lusk,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - March 26, 2015]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 26 Mar 2015 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:01</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,tv ubn,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF, April 02, 2015]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[live]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[live]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 02 Apr 2015 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:08</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,walt lusk,dr judy rosenberg,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - April 23, 2015]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 23 Apr 2015 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:13</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,dr judy rosenberg,walt lusk,ubn radio tv,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - April 30, 2015]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[live]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[live]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 30 Apr 2015 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:05</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - May 07, 2015]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>90125</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 07 May 2015 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:20</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,walt lusk,ubn radio,dr judy rosenberg,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[DATING a DOUCHE BAG Part 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Why do people behave like douche bags?  Douche bags are injured people who act out.  They either implode in passive aggressive behaviors, or explode and become explosive and project their anger onto others.  In any case, dating an emotionally injured dou]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Why do people behave like douche bags?  Douche bags are injured people who act out.  They either implode in passive aggressive behaviors, or explode and become explosive and project their anger onto others.  In any case, dating an emotionally injured douche bag will not make you happy.
Examples of men who won't make you happy are the man who hates his job, the man obsessed with his mother, and the man who needs to be admired, to name a few. 
Today we talked about the WOUND behind the douche bag and how the reaction to the wound cracks people's perceptions about the world and creates reactions and defenses that make their partner want to RUN.
From a MIND MAP perspective, douche bags were not given their emotional supplies or were too spoiled and never learned how to handle let down.  The results are the many dating disasters we all want to steer clear of. 
Today we Shrunk The Tune, "I Knew You Were Trouble" by Taylor Swift.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 21 May 2015 20:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:00:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,dr-judy-wtf,podcast,Douche bags,injured,passive aggressive,project,wound,defenses,MIND MAP,Toxic Relationshipswww.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[DATING a DOUCHE BAG Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Douche bags can be women too. If you are dating a douche bag woman, steer clear.  Emotionally hurt people hurt people.  And if hurt people don't get help, they project it on to their significant other.
Here are some signs that you are dating an injured s]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Douche bags can be women too. If you are dating a douche bag woman, steer clear.  Emotionally hurt people hurt people.  And if hurt people don't get help, they project it on to their significant other.
Here are some signs that you are dating an injured soul who is now behaving like a douche bag.  Women who overvalue money typically can't connect emotionally.  Their idea of making a bond with you is based on how much you make.  Usually feeling undervalued, their ugly defense mechanism makes them look like money grubbers. 
Overly dependent women are another category of injured souls.  They can't seem to function unless you make up your mind for them as they feel that they don't have one.  Perhaps they were told that they are stupid or perhaps their mother made all their decisions for them.  In any case, the burden of all decisions will be on YOU if you don't steer clear. 
The over critical woman is another one to stay clear of.  They criticize most likely because they have BEEN criticized and now they are projecting that criticism onto you.  The key to curing a douche bag from a MIND MAP perspective is to open up the wounds of childhood, clear them out, and create new healthy ways of coping with others.
Today we Shrunk The Tune, "Fire and Ice" by Pat Benatar.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 28 May 2015 18:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:00:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,ubn radio tv,dr-judy-wtf,podcast,Douche bag,overly dependent,undervalued,defense mechanisms,over critical,projecting,MIND MAP,wounds,copingwww.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Toxic Friends]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Some friends take more "light" than they give.  Although it is best to try to stay interconnected (see MIND MAP, Panel 7 www.rjudywtf.com and heal the disconnect between friends, some friendships need to go.  If your "friend" takes more than she or he gi]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Some friends take more "light" than they give.  Although it is best to try to stay interconnected (see MIND MAP, Panel 7 www.rjudywtf.com and heal the disconnect between friends, some friendships need to go.  If your "friend" takes more than she or he gives and you feel vampired frequently after spending time, it may be time to dump the person.
 
If your "friend" is a blamer, shamer, criticizer, it may be a good idea to say bye bye.  Hurt people hurt people.  People with narcissistic injuries (they didn't receive the emotional goodies during the first few years of life, OR they were made to feel too special without a reality check may treat you as though you don't count, or worse, as though you don't exist.  
 
Trust your gut.  If you've tried the Peaceful Healing Dialogue and nothing is resolved (at website under forms section), and if you continue to feel bad around your friend; if you can't trust him or her and they have no ability to self reflect and self correct their issues, you may need to spare yourself and let go.  
 
We SHRUNK THAT TUNE:  "Disappointed, " by Public Image Ltd.  (Icehouse)]]></itunes:summary>
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        <pubDate>Thu, 04 Jun 2015 19:50:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:00:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr-judy-wtf,podcast,Toxic friends,MIND MAP,disconnect,vampired,reality check,gut,self reflect,self correct,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Hole in The Soul]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Transgender  -  Caitlyn Jenner]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[In light of Caitlyn Jenner's decision to take on life as a woman we felt it important to explore the topic of how best to "think through" a life changing decision to morph from one sex to another. Not all people who change lifestyles from one sex to anot]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[In light of Caitlyn Jenner's decision to take on life as a woman we felt it important to explore the topic of how best to "think through" a life changing decision to morph from one sex to another. Not all people who change lifestyles from one sex to another change their sexual orientation, and not all individuals opt for sex change operations.
 
The adjustment to the new lifestyle, no matter how the person chooses to live impacts not only their life, but the life of those around them like their significant other, their parents, children and their immediate community.
 
It is very important to explore this decision before permanent changes are made. Therapy, medical research about hormone therapy and sex change surgery is mandatory.  If the gender identity issue is a result of an emotional wound from childhood (sexual molestation for example) it is very important to explore the psychodynamics behind the decision.
 
Using the MIND MAP for Healing Human Disconnect, that individual can get to understand themselves better and decide if the decision is healthy or unhealthy for them.   If the person is a minor, it is important to wait as long as possible--children sometimes change their mind.  
 
In all cases, it is important to show humanity, respect and acceptance. The suicide rate is higher for transgenders and part of the reason for that is community judgment, blame, shame and criticism.  Ultimately, it is up to the individual and everyone has the right to life an authentic life and to be comfortable in their own skin.
 
We SHRUNK THAT TUNE: "Changes," by David Bowie]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>91985</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 11 Jun 2015 13:35:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:17</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Transgender,hormone therapy,sex change surgery,gender identify,minor,MIND MAP,humanity,acceptance,suicide,authenticity,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Hole in The Soul,Caitlyn Jenner,Kardashian,LGBT,Sex Change,Family,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Narcissistic Parents Will Never Understand the Breadth of Their Impact on Kids.]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[The impact narcissistic fathers on their children can be profoundly damaging.  What is a narcissistic father?  A father who puts ME before HE.  A father that demeans devalues and destroys. A father who leaves you feeling "less than" rather than esteemed.]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[The impact narcissistic fathers on their children can be profoundly damaging.  What is a narcissistic father?  A father who puts ME before HE.  A father that demeans devalues and destroys. A father who leaves you feeling "less than" rather than esteemed.  
 
Father's who behave in a self centered narcissistic fashion have been injured also at the causal level, starting with mother-infant and father-infant disconnect.  From a MIND MAP perspective, when we don't get the emotional ingredients necessary to form a healthy human psyche--eye contact, skin contact, and general emotional attunement, we develop a defense mechanism called the narcissistic defense--which means that the feeling "less than" is covered up by acting "as if" they are special.  
 
As parents, they leave the child with a lower self esteem and a nasty core belief.  Daughter's of narcissistic fathers may grow up feeling "not special" and may choose men who treat them as not very special.  Sons may grow up feeling "not good enough" as nothing they do is good enough for the narcissistic father.
 
Because they can't express their repressed emotions, children of narcissists are prone to depression (the suppression of their feelings), and their self esteem suffers.  The Double Dungeon of Darkness is a description of the lack of "light" these children feel when they are raised by 2 self centered people.
 
The HOLE IN THE SOUL the narcissistic parent leaves the child is then filled with "drugs, sex, and ANYTHING" that numbs the pain of feeling as if they don't matter.
 
We SHRUNK THE TUNE: "Cat's in the Cradle" by Harry Chapin]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>92118</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 18 Jun 2015 16:10:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:59</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Narcissistic Father,demean,devalue,destroy,esteem,self centered,MIND MAP,causal,mother-infant disconnect,father-infant disconnect,core belief,repressed,depression self esteem double dungeon of darkness,hole in the soul,drugs,sex,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Narcissism,Fathers,Control,Disappointment]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Narcissistic Fathers  -  Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Narcissistic parents will never understand                                                                                                                         the breadth of their impact on kids.
 
 
The effects on the child of narcissistic parenting]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Narcissistic parents will never understand                                                                                                                         the breadth of their impact on kids.
 
 
The effects on the child of narcissistic parenting can be devastating.  One form of narcissistic fathers is the "helicopter dad" who hovers over the child.  This form of protection is NOT protection--it's SMOTHERING!
 
Done for dad's own needs, he helicopters, most likely to control the child, or because he has his own injuries from childhood based on being under protected and now paranoid. His overprotection is for his own comfort, at the expense of his child.
 
This creates negative core beliefs in the child like "The world is not safe" or "I am special--but in a weak way," or "I am not competent enough to handle my own life."
 
The hallmark of narcissism is lack of empathy, inability to put the child before the parent, and feeling like you are constantly being Demeaned, Devalued and Destroyed.
 
At the end of the day, the children of narcissistic parents feel "less than" and because CHILDHOOD IS A HOSTAGE SITUATION and they can't say what they really feel because the parent has no capacity for empathy, they are locked in the DOUBLE DUNGEON OF DARKNESS and end up imploding with depression, or exploding in anger.  From a MIND MAP perspective, fathers were not there to nourish the mother and nourish the family enough for proper emotional development.
 
Daughters of narcissistic fathers have to watch for developing core beliefs like "I'm not important, or special."  Daughters also have to watch for not becoming involved with emotionally unavailable men.
 
Sons of narcissistic fathers have to watch for developing core beliefs like "I'm not good enough" and make sure they don't attach to a woman who will demean devalue and destroy them.
 
We Shrunk The Tune: "No Son Of Mine,"  by Genesis]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>92431</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 25 Jun 2015 09:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:58:010</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Narcissistic father,demean,devalue,destroy,MIND MAP,hostage situation,double dungeon of darkness,imploding,exploding,anger,depression core beliefs,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,dr judy wtf,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[THE UPS AND DOWNS OF BIPOLAR DISORDER]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Bipolar Disorder, otherwise known as manic depression is a severe mood disorder defined by very high "highs" and very low lows.  The state of mania can induce acting out behavior such as overspending, going on a creative binge for days, or any such exagg]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Bipolar Disorder, otherwise known as manic depression is a severe mood disorder defined by very high "highs" and very low lows.  The state of mania can induce acting out behavior such as overspending, going on a creative binge for days, or any such exaggerated behavior.  The collateral damage to the person and their significant other and families is huge. Everyone suffers.

Because they don't like to kill the highs, people suffering from this disorder hate to take their medication, and are often medically non-complient.  Explanations for this disorder include everything from heredity to psychodynamic causes.  There is yet to be identified a "gene" for this disorder.

From a MIND MAP perspective, I always look to CAUSE for explations.  The mind and the body are connected and emotions when left uncontained from infancy can go rampant.  Triggers such as breakups, and other traumas can bring on the mania and deep depression, which is an indicator that there is more to this dis-ease than heredity. 

I find that the best treatment plan is psychotherapy combined with medication until the person can gain better control over their emotions.

We Shrunk That Tune, "Unwell"  By Matchbox20.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>92521</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 02 Jul 2015 08:40:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Bipolar,manic depression,highs,depression,medically non-complient,heredity,psychodynamic causes,gene,MIND MAP,triggers,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Maxbox20]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Its for More than Just Veterans  -  Part 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[When we experience trauma during our formative first few years of life, we are more prone to be triggered by life's stressors and break down when triggered.  When we are hit by trauma, some of us crumble more easily than others.  Those who are able to be]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[When we experience trauma during our formative first few years of life, we are more prone to be triggered by life's stressors and break down when triggered.  When we are hit by trauma, some of us crumble more easily than others.  Those who are able to better withstand the shocks were better more attuned to emotionally and taught to self sooth as infant.  When we receive the emotional goodies to form a healthy core sense of self, we are emotionally hardier.
 
PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) symptoms include flashbacks, nightmares, withdrawal into depression, and a sense of being easily re-triggered by events that remind the person of the trauma.  War, rape, watching any type of violence like domestic violence for example, can activate the trauma triggers and bring on the symptoms.  The MIND MAP to Heal Human Disconnect is an excellent way to address the cause of the symptoms and dismantle the reactions (see our link www.DrJudyWTF.com ).
 
To help the person shift out of the trauma, it is important to seek help immediately and detox the experience.  Today our call-in, "Sophia," related how she still experiences trauma years after being physically and sexually abused by her ex-husband.  The biggest betrayal of all is the response, or lack of response of the family:  When mothers and fathers or both act "as if" the trauma didn't matter, or worse, deny the event, they betray their child and create even more significant trauma.  Seek help immediately if you are a victim of trauma and are experiencing PTSD.  
 
We Shrunk That Tune "Battle Scars" by Lupe Fiasco.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>92724</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 09 Jul 2015 14:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:50:17</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[MIND MAP,post traumatic stress disorder,PTSD,trigger,life stressor,attuned,nightmares,flashbacks,betray,trauma,victim,cause,Heal Human Disconnect,Lupe Fiasco,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Hole in The Soul,Freud]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Its for More than Just Veterans  -  Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[PTSD, or post-traumatic stress disorder, is commonly associated with war veterans. The trauma-brain is triggered by current events that bring an individual back to original memories which were laid down at Cause.?  From a Mind Map perspective, when we ar]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[PTSD, or post-traumatic stress disorder, is commonly associated with war veterans. The trauma-brain is triggered by current events that bring an individual back to original memories which were laid down at Cause.?  From a Mind Map perspective, when we are nurtured in our first few years of life, we form what Dr. John Bowlby, father of Attachment Theory, a secure sense of attachment.

Those who have the secure attachment are less vulnerable to PTSD. The key to preventing symptoms from escalating is early intervention.?  The long-term key to mental health is dismantling old encoding of wounds, that are easily triggered by life's continuous traumatic events. ? 

Today we focused on the trauma of abortions and their deleterious after-effects on women.

We shrunk the tune: "Zombie,' By the Cranberries]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>93539</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 23 Jul 2015 11:15:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:17</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,dr judy rosenberg,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Abortion,PTSD,Post Traumatic Stress Disorder,PASS,Post Abortion,Stress Syndrome,Secure Attachment,early intervention,emotional triggers,Veterans,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Smother Mothers]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[An overlooked injury of childhood is being "smothered." 
When a child is smothered by mother/father, she or he doesn't have the opportunity to develop healthy independence.

The "smother system" is a saboteur against healthy emotional development.  This ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[An overlooked injury of childhood is being "smothered." 
When a child is smothered by mother/father, she or he doesn't have the opportunity to develop healthy independence.

The "smother system" is a saboteur against healthy emotional development.  This dysfunctional system often occurs when the mother is "emotionally needy" of her child and uses him or her to meet her emotional needs.  For example, if mother and father are not connected and supportive of each other, the care-taking parent may triangulate the child into the marriage to help buffer the disconnect.

The child then gets the message that it is "bad" for him or her to become independent because it will be "bad" for mommy and daddy's relationship and they may get a divorce (biggest childhood fear).?  From a MIND MAP perspective, the key to healthy independence is developing healthy "isms" (Panel 5) and healthy dependency that help the child develop healthy boundaries that allow for growth. ? 

We Shrunk The Tune, "Numb" by Linkin Park]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>93805</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 06 Aug 2015 18:20:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:52:12</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,ubn radio tv,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Injury,smother,healthy independence,emotionally needy,divorce,triangulate,MIND MAP,isms,boundaries,Linkin Park,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr. Eric Pearl]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we spoke to our guest, Dr. Eric Pearl, author of The Reconnection: ? Heal others, Heal Yourself.?  Dr. Pearl spoke about new "frequencies of healing that transcend technique." His view that we cannot simply treat symptoms, but have to treat the cau]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we spoke to our guest, Dr. Eric Pearl, author of The Reconnection: ? Heal others, Heal Yourself.?  Dr. Pearl spoke about new "frequencies of healing that transcend technique." His view that we cannot simply treat symptoms, but have to treat the cause is in line with the MIND MAP thinking. 
According to Dr. Pearl, synergy with Source-God, The Universe, The Light, or whatever one wants to call this force is a key part to accessing this type healing. He believes that healers become the link to reconnection. 

Although his methodology is different than more psychological approaches, we both agree that unconditional love is the most powerful force in the universe and that there are many pathways to healing.?  He will be conducting a seminar at the Biltmore Hotel in Los Angeles on September 11th and for those interested, they can contact him at his website: www.thereconnection.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>93982</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 13 Aug 2015 21:30:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:14</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF,ubn radio,ubn radio tv,judy rosenberg,walt lusk,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Reconnection,heal,frequencies,cause,MIND MAP synergy,Source,unconditional love,Dr. Eric Pearl,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[The Movie - The Gift]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we shrunk the movie, THE GIFT, written and directed by Joel Edgerton, starring Jason Bateman and Rebecca Hall. This movie is an excellent psychological thriller and it happened to be filmed at the Psychological Healing Center.
 
The subject centers]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we shrunk the movie, THE GIFT, written and directed by Joel Edgerton, starring Jason Bateman and Rebecca Hall. This movie is an excellent psychological thriller and it happened to be filmed at the Psychological Healing Center.
 
The subject centers around bullying, betrayal, and the haunting from the past coming back to revisit the now.  As the character Gordo (Edgerton) says,
"You think you are done with the past, But the past is not done with you."
From a MIND MAP perspective this is really the case.  Unless we deal with the CAUSE of our issues, unless we dismantle the wounds of the past, we will relive their effects.
 
The bullying theme of the movie suggests that the characters, who each had different wounds from the past, projected theirs on each other.  Rebecca Hall (Robyn) served as the voice of truth, insisting on it.  Joel Edgerton (Gordo) tried to clear her Truth Lens (with Windex in this case) about the past, and Jason Bateman (Simon) ping ponged back and forth between good guy/bad guy until things got clarified.
 
We all need to have clear psycho-perception so that we can distinguish lies from truth, good people from evil people, and take curse-by-design "gifts" from the past as opportunities for growth.
 
We Shrunk the Tune "Let Bygones Be Bygones" by Blackstreet.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>94159</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 20 Aug 2015 12:20:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:52:52</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,ubn radio tv,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,THE GIFT,movie,Joel Edgerton,Jason Bateman,Rebecca Hall,psychological thriller,Psychological Healing Center,bullying,betrayal,"You're not done with the past until the past is done with you."   truth lens,curse-by-design,"let bygones be bygones,MIND MAP,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,The Gift,Blackstreet]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Prenatal care and breast feeding for mental health]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today's guest was Maha Al Musa from Australia, founder of BellydanceBirth (www.BellyDanceForBirth.com).  Maha teaches belly dancing for expecting mothers as a way for women to attune and prepare their bodies for the birthing process.
 
She also is an adv]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today's guest was Maha Al Musa from Australia, founder of BellydanceBirth (www.BellyDanceForBirth.com).  Maha teaches belly dancing for expecting mothers as a way for women to attune and prepare their bodies for the birthing process.
 
She also is an advocate for breast feeding until mother and child are complete in their process.  From a Mind Map perspective, healing human disconnect starts with healing disconnection between mother and infant.  The connection begins in utero and extends for life.  We have to go back to basics and allow for the process from pre-birth onward to foster healthy connections along the way.
 
Breastfeeding increases a child's ability to develop a good immune system, to calm down the amygdala (the emotional trauma brain) and to properly attach to mother, fostering good emotional and cognitive wellbeing. Let us never forget that the father's role is equally important.  He must nourish the mother, so she can nourish her child.
 
We shrunk the tune "Lady Madonna" by The Beatles.
 
KEYWORDS: breastfeeding, Mind Map, cognitive/emotional wellbeing, amygdala, in utero, The Beatles, Lady Madonna, Dr Judy WTF, Walt Lusk, UBN Radio, UBNradio.com, Get on the Couch with Dr Judy, Healing Human Disconnect, Be The Cause, John Bowlby, Attachment Theory, Hole in The Soul, Freud
 
www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>94750</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 27 Aug 2015 11:20:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:29</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF,dr judy rosenberg,walt lusk,ubn radio,ubn radio tv,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[THE PSYCHO-SPIRITUAL SIDE OF THE MIND MAP AND PSYCHIC EDDIE CONNER]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Always looking to think outside the box, we spoke today with psychic Eddie Conner, host of radio show Truth Be Told. Traumatized in utero, Eddie had a pre-birth experience where he "chose" his family to learn a life lesson of compassion. 

At its heart, ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Always looking to think outside the box, we spoke today with psychic Eddie Conner, host of radio show Truth Be Told. Traumatized in utero, Eddie had a pre-birth experience where he "chose" his family to learn a life lesson of compassion. 

At its heart, the MIND MAP is a psycho-spiritual model based on the principles of Universal Truth, and healing through the most powerful force on the planet--unconditional love.?  

Eddie and we agree that unconditional love is the most powerful way to heal human disconnect. We also agree that when people fail us, it is an opportunity to connect to Source, God, Universal Truth, or whatever pathway takes us to a reparative and restorative state of being. ? 

We Shrunk the Tune,  "Now Comes The Night" by Rob Thomas]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>94881</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 03 Sep 2015 12:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:43</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF,Eddie Conner,ubn radio,ubn radio tv,psychic,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Psycho-spiritual,traumatized,in utero,compassion,MIND MAP,universal truth,unconditional love,Source,God,reparative,Rob Thomas,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[WTF - What The Film - Inside Out]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[We Shrunk The Film Inside Out by Pixar.  It is no wonder that it is so popular as it has Universal Appeal.  Everyone struggles with their emotions, and from a MIND MAP perspective, this turns out to be a very interesting film depicted in a way that both ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[We Shrunk The Film Inside Out by Pixar.  It is no wonder that it is so popular as it has Universal Appeal.  Everyone struggles with their emotions, and from a MIND MAP perspective, this turns out to be a very interesting film depicted in a way that both adults and children can relate to.?  When emotions color events, we tend to remember them 

Quoting, Dr. Judy from her Holywood Reporter article, 
	"Old memories that are not connected with emotions are less likely 
	to stick around," says psychotherapist Judy Rosenberg. 
	Even more, "events plus emotions lock in memories."
http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/8-things-inside-teaches-viewers-804052

Our emotions, as seen through the lens of Pixar, are divided into Joy, Fear, Sadness, Anger, and Disgust.?  These emotions live in "files" that when activated re-energize. The ones that fade are the ones that are irrelevant over time.?  The amygdala, the emotional part of our brain is responsive to our feeling center, and operates on a "fight/flight" basis.?  Joy is experienced when we are unshadowed, unblocked and in the FLOW.  

Some emotions repeat when life as "unfinished psychological business" and do what I call a WTF (What The Freud!) repetition loop.?  All feelings must be expressed appropriately.?  When we are healthy, we acknowledge and "feel" all of them.?  If we don't EXPRESS, we the REPESS, SUPPRESS and DEPRESS!

We SHRUNK THE TUNE,. "More than a Feeling," by Boston]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>95044</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 10 Sep 2015 20:15:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:33</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,dr judy rosenberg,ubn radio tv,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,INSIDE OUT,PIXAR,HOLLYWOOD REPORTER,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,MIND MAP,emotions,Joy,Fear,Sadness,Anger,Disgust,Flow,amygldala,"unfinished psychological business" WTF,express,repress,suppress,depress,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Teen Plastic Surgery]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[According to new statistics, there is a massive increase in teen suicides.  Over 300,000 teenagers are opting to go under the knife each year.  The most common teen plastic surgery are: -nose jobs, ear adjustments (pinning the back) and breast augmentati]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[According to new statistics, there is a massive increase in teen suicides.  Over 300,000 teenagers are opting to go under the knife each year.  The most common teen plastic surgery are: -nose jobs, ear adjustments (pinning the back) and breast augmentation / or reduction.
 
With social media advocating looking perfect, it is no wonder that the standards of beauty are changing and teems feel that if they are not one of the beautiful people, they will miss out on love, popularity, etc.
 
Dr. Judy's interview with the Huffington Post (played in this episode) talks about self esteem, the media, and looking good.  According to Dr. Judy it is best to get some psycho-surgery and explore the issues before opting for plastic surgery--a permanent solution to self esteem issues that are oftentimes not even solved after the procedure.
 
Some people use plastic surgery to fill the hole in the soul and they never really feel better even after countless surgeries.  From a MIND MAP perspective, It is best to examine the issues before going under the knife and never to skimp on cost--always get the best surgeon possible.
 
we Shrunk the Tune, Plastic Surgery Slumber Party from Plastic Surgery Slumber Party
 
KEYWORDS: Teens, plastic surgery, Teen Plastic Surgery, psycho-surgery, MIND MAP, Huffington Post, nose jobs, breast augmentation, breast reduction, social media, popularity, self esteem, Dr Judy WTF, Walt Lusk, UBN Radio, UBNradio.com, Get on the Couch with Dr Judy, Healing Human Disconnect, Be The Cause, John Bowlby, Attachment Theory, Hole in The Soul, Mind Map, Freud, Dr. Judy Rosenberg
 
www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>95173</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 17 Sep 2015 20:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:37</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,ubn radio tv,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Anorexic and Bulimia]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Almost 50% of people with eating disorders meet the criteria for depression.  Only 1 in 10 men and women with eating disorders receive treatment. Only 35% of people that receive treatment for eating disorders get treatment at a specialized facility for e]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Almost 50% of people with eating disorders meet the criteria for depression.  Only 1 in 10 men and women with eating disorders receive treatment. Only 35% of people that receive treatment for eating disorders get treatment at a specialized facility for eating disorders.Up to 30 million people of all ages and genders suffer from an eating disorder (anorexia, bulimia and binge eating disorder) in the U.S.? Eating disorders have the highest mortality rate of any mental illness.

These are the facts.?  From a MIND MAP perspective, eating disorders are symptoms that point to the cause--mother-infant, father-infant, and any form of HUMAN DISCONNECT. When we are disconnected FROM we hurt, and when we hurt, we attempt to fill in the hole in the soul. ? 

In most cases, people who suffer from anorexia are females feeling out of control with their bodies. People who suffer from anorexia have a very profound distorted body image. People suffering from bulimia have a higher incidence of being sexually abused.

Today we interviewed Anna Cho, MA, on staff as a Psychological Assistant at the Psychological Healing Center.?  Her work with eating disorders confirms that this is a control issue which is exacerbated by unrealistic media portrayals of what is considered beautiful (see article in People Magazine featuring Dr. Judy Rosenberg and her comments on action heroes portrayed in normal human body dimension verses "thin and idealistic.")

Given the danger to the self, it is imperative that if you or someone you know suffers from this eating disorder, that you get help immediately.?  We at the Psychological Healing Center offer tele-therapy as well as Skype therapy at affordable rates for those in need.

We Shrunk The Tune, "World War Me", by Theory of a Deadman]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>95316</guid>
        <pubDate>Fri, 25 Sep 2015 18:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:34</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Bulimia,anorexia,People Magazine,Dr. Judy,media,eating disorders,sexually abused,binge eating,MIND MAP,Anna Cho,MA,hole in the soul,highest mortality rate,mother-infant,father-infant disconnect,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[UNABLE TO MOVE ON IN A RELATIONSHIP:  PART 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[When wounds from the past are reactivated by a breakup, the trauma of disconnection is re-experienced.  People who are unable to move on from a breakup often find that the loss seems worse than death.
 
The breakup hurts so much because it opens the file]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[When wounds from the past are reactivated by a breakup, the trauma of disconnection is re-experienced.  People who are unable to move on from a breakup often find that the loss seems worse than death.
 
The breakup hurts so much because it opens the files of unhealed wounds.  From a MIND MAP perspective, our blueprint from our family of origin creates a blueprint for attracting a mate.
 
We pick familiar and "familial" people to try to heal our past and find that we repeat the injury.  The breakup is not only the breakup of the past history between two people, but also forces the person to grieve wishes that were not fulfilled.  Our call-in guest "Rick" shared his fear that someone else would replace him--a "better" someone. 
 
Because breakups trigger our negative core beliefs we oftentimes believe that we are broken up with because we are not good enough, loveable enough, or some such theme.
 
When relationships end, it's an opportunity for us to do more healing of past wounds so we can pick better the next time.
 
To help recover, STAY AWAY from your ex and allow yourself to really heal!
 
Today we Shrunk The Tune: "How's it Gonna Be," by Third Eye Blind]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>90589</guid>
        <pubDate>Wed, 30 Sep 2015 17:48:31 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:47</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Breaking Up,attunement,MIND MAP,mother-infant disconnect,traumatize,esteem,secure attachment,Trauma,disconnection,breakup,negative core beliefs,Move On,dr judy wtf,dr judy rosenberg,walt lusk,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Alcoholism]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Alcoholism is a devastating addiction that affects 16 Million people in the U.S. annually.  Over 100,000 people die each year from alcohol-related causes.  Like other defense mechanisms, alcoholism serves to numb feelings and regulate our emotions, filli]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Alcoholism is a devastating addiction that affects 16 Million people in the U.S. annually.  Over 100,000 people die each year from alcohol-related causes.  Like other defense mechanisms, alcoholism serves to numb feelings and regulate our emotions, filling the HOLE IN THE SOUL that Human Disconnect leaves one with.
 
Some say alcoholism has a genetic base. I see it this way -- the genes load the gun, and the environment pulls the trigger.  If we are hurt, abandoned, abused, smothered, we have a higher probability of filling the HOLE IN THE SOUL with substance abuse.  There are many signs of alcoholism.
 
If you can't control your drinking, if your drinking is affecting your job, your relationship and your health, it is time to get help.  The 12 step programs are where to start.  Get yourself a sponsor.  Go to an AA meetings and once clean and sober, begin Mind Map therapy to dismantle the negative encoding of pathology and do the work necessary to heal the HOLE IN THE SOUL.  
 
We Shrunk the Tune "Cigarettes & Alcohol" by Oasis.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>95594</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 01 Oct 2015 18:30:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:33</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Alcoholism,defense mechanisms,HOLE IN THE SOUL,Human Disconnect,Genetic,12 Step,AA meetings,therapy,sponsor,Mind Map,encoding,Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Oasis,Cigarettes and Alcohol]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF - October 08, 2015]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>96140</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 08 Oct 2015 19:40:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:40</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Pornography and Relationships  -  2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we discussed the impact of porn on relationships.  Most people have delicate ego's and can't withstand the feelings generated by their partner who engages in porn.  Negative core beliefs like "I'm not pretty enough, or I'm not enough, or I'm not im]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we discussed the impact of porn on relationships.  Most people have delicate ego's and can't withstand the feelings generated by their partner who engages in porn.  Negative core beliefs like "I'm not pretty enough, or I'm not enough, or I'm not important" can be triggered by the partner that engages in porn.
 
Eric Perry, M.A., Psychological Assistant at the Psychological Healing Center works with couples who are struggling with the negative impact of porn on relationships.  Eric spoke about how porn can cause an emotional and sexual disconnection between couples. "When the man ejaculates to porn, his desire for his partner is greatly reduced. 
It takes him at least 20 minutes to recuperate from the sexual experience, leaving his partner in waiting." 
 
Eric went on to talk about how, when the energy is kept within the relationship, virility returns and connection--sexual, and emotional can be healed.  Training your sexuality on others (verses your significant other) can dilute the connection and eventually erode the relationship.  From a MIND MAP perspective, porn can lead to CHAOS, DEFENSES and BREAKDOWNS.  
 
Porn can be a hole-in-the-soul filler, especially when it is used to manage emotions such as anger, frustration or boredom. Like a drug, orgasm can lift the mood temporarily but the cycle of the drug must continue.
 
When porn becomes an addiction, it is time to seek help.  Therapy and 12 Step programs such as
1.    Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH) www.sash.net
2.    Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) www.saa-recovery.org
3.    Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) www.sa.org
4.    Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA) www.sca-recovery.org 
5.    Sexual Recovery Anonymous (SRA) www.sexualrecovery.org    
6.    S-Anon International Family Groups www.sanon.org
7.    Codependents of Sexual Addictions www.cosa-recovery.org
 
These groups, along with some therapy, Will help dismantle the problem and create the necessary structure to get off the addiction. 
 
We Shrunk The Tune "Porn" by Arcade Fire]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>96336</guid>
        <pubDate>Fri, 16 Oct 2015 18:55:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:04</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Porn,ego,negative core beliefs,ejaculates,sexual experience,virility,MIND MAP,drug. orgasm,addiction 12 Step,SLAA,SAA,Pornography,Self-Esteem,low self-esteem,inadequacy,chaos,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Betrayal,Secrecy,Addiction,Desensitization,Sex,masturbation,disgusted,Trust,Arcade Fire]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[John Tracy Clinic]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we had the honor of having two special guests from the John Tracy Clinic, a clinic providing assistance to the deaf and hard of hearing.  John Tracy was the deaf son of the famed actor Spencer Tracy.
 
Mary Beth Goring, M.A., MFT, a Marriage and ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we had the honor of having two special guests from the John Tracy Clinic, a clinic providing assistance to the deaf and hard of hearing.  John Tracy was the deaf son of the famed actor Spencer Tracy.
 
Mary Beth Goring, M.A., MFT, a Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in helping and supporting families that learn that their child is deaf and designs programs for families adjusting to the shock of finding out that their child is special needs.  Joey Perlmutter is the director of fund raising for the clinic. and is highly dedicated to making sure that funds are available for programs, both medical and psychological to support the children and their families.
 
We take our 5 senses for granted, and when the sense of hearing is absent, there is much grief involved and big adjustments must be made to bridge communication. Mary Beth spoke out about the way families grieve this loss and how different people express grief differently.  With great medical advances and research, these children have an opportunity to avail themselves of cochlear implants that make it possible for them to pick up sound and learn to communicate with others that can hear.  Many go on to become doctors, lawyers and highly educated professionals.  From a MIND MAP perspective it is essential that we bridge communication so that we create systems to interconnect and stay connected!
 
This clinic is THE place to go to get psychological and medical support for individuals who discover that their child is hard of hearing. They provide information in both Spanish and English and are growing worldwide. Check them out at www.JTC.org.
 
Walt and Dr. Judy commend them and support them in their endeavors to provide the community and the world at large with their valuable services and information.   If you would like to donate, you can visit their website and do so and participate in helping to Heal Human Disconnect. No donation is too small.
 
Today we Shrunk the Tune: "Pinball Wizard" by The Who. 
Mary Beth Goring, M.A., MFT, a Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in helping and supporting families that learn that their child is deaf and designs programs for families adjusting to the shock of finding out that their child is special needs.  Joey Perlmutter is the director of fund raising for the clinic. and is highly dedicated to making sure that funds are available for programs, both medical and psychological to support the children and their families.
 
We take our 5 senses for granted, and when the sense of hearing is absent, there is much grief involved and big adjustments must be made to bridge communication. Mary Beth spoke out about the way families grieve this loss and how different people express grief differently.  With great medical advances and research, these children have an opportunity to avail themselves of cochlear implants that make it possible for them to pick up sound and learn to communicate with others that can hear.  Many go on to become doctors, lawyers and highly educated professionals.  From a MIND MAP perspective it is essential that we bridge communication so that we create systems to interconnect and stay connected!
 
This clinic is THE place to go to get psychological and medical support for individuals who discover that their child is hard of hearing. They provide information in both Spanish and English and are growing worldwide. Check them out at www.JTC.org.
 
Walt and Dr. Judy commend them and support them in their endeavors to provide the community and the world at large with their valuable services and information.   If you would like to donate, you can visit their website and do so and participate in helping to Heal Human Disconnect. No donation is too small. Today we Shrunk the Tune: "Pinball Wizard" by The Who.
]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>87972</guid>
        <pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2015 20:11:47 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>1:18:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[John Tracy Clinic, deaf, hard of hearing, special needs, 5 senses, cochlear implants, interconnect, MIND MAP, Heal Human Disconnect.,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Healing Corporate Disconnect]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Employee stress costs corporations billions of dollars annually.
When employees are dissatisfied and stressed at work, the PROFIT-ABILITY of the company slides down.  Let's face it, most of us spend more time at work than at home or any other activity.  ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Employee stress costs corporations billions of dollars annually.
When employees are dissatisfied and stressed at work, the PROFIT-ABILITY of the company slides down.  Let's face it, most of us spend more time at work than at home or any other activity.  If going to work is causing CHAOS, DEFENSES, and BREAKDOWNS from a MIND MAP perspective, it is time to address the situation.  
 
Most companies do not have a communication FLOW between UPPER MIDDLE and LOWER management. When there is a communication disconnect, everyone suffers.  A philosophy of synergy is important where all feel valued and all feel they are pulling the company up and are part of the process.  It is important that corporate employees are acknowledge on all levels--for good work done, coupled with financial reward.
 
We Shrunk The Tune: "Take That Job and Shove It" by David Allan Coe .....]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>96682</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 22 Oct 2015 20:20:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:29</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Corporate Disconnect,employee stress,profit-ability,work,CHAOS,DEFENSES and BREAKDOWNS,MIND MAP,upper,middle and lower management,communication,financial reward,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,David Allan Coe,Stress]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Healing Corporate Disconnect  -  Part 2 Is your company like a Dysfunctional Family?]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[From a Mind Map perspective, what we blueprint during our first few years of life can have reverberating effects on us individually, on how we function within relationships, and even how we function within our work environment. 
 
Many individuals come f]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[From a Mind Map perspective, what we blueprint during our first few years of life can have reverberating effects on us individually, on how we function within relationships, and even how we function within our work environment. 
 
Many individuals come from dysfunctional families and these dysfunctions set in motion negative core beliefs that get re-triggered at work and in corporate settings.  Bosses and executives can re-trigger feelings about our mothers and fathers, and co-workers can re-trigger sibling rivalry.  When our families set up poor competitive systems, or worse, abusive systems, we can become reactivated at work.
 
It is imperative that if we want to function and FLOW at work, that we Heal our Human Disconnect so we don't manifest it in Corporate Disconnect and destroy our emotional and financial health of the company.
 
Today we Shrunk The Tune: "The Stranger," by Billy Joel.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>96993</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 29 Oct 2015 13:35:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:45</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Mind Map,Corporate Disconnect,work environment,dysfunctional families,co-workers,sibling rivalry,reactivated,FLOW,Heal Human Disconnect Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Billy Joel,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Healing Corporate Disconnect  -  Part 3 How to Deal with a Lousy Boss  (like a Toddler)]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[When core individual wounds are reactivated within the corporate setting, Corporate Chaos, from a MIND MAP perspective can ensue.  To dismantle the CAUSE, corporations must understand that they can behave like dysfunctional families that re-enact the emp]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[When core individual wounds are reactivated within the corporate setting, Corporate Chaos, from a MIND MAP perspective can ensue.  To dismantle the CAUSE, corporations must understand that they can behave like dysfunctional families that re-enact the employee's family of origin dynamics in a WTF repetition principle type way.
 
By helping employees understand the dysfunctional system and how their negative core beliefs can become activated, they can begin to self reflect and self correct their behaviors, communications and mainly perceptions (correct the "cracked lens of perception" of pathology).
 
Using the PEACEFUL HEALING DIALOGUE for ensuring that conversations stay CONNECTED (available at www.DrJudyWTF.com under Resources), we can Heal Corporate Disconnect and make sure that communication FLOWS properly through all the levels of management-lower, middle and upper.
 
 
We Shrunk The Tune "Peace Train" by Cat Stevens.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>97157</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 05 Nov 2015 11:35:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:13</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Corporate Disconnect,Corporate Chaos,MIND MAP,CAUSE,employees,dysfunctional family,WTF or What The Freud!  negative core beliefs,FLOWS,lower,middle,upper management,PEACEFUL HEALING DIALOGUE,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Cat Stevens]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Life/Success Coaching vs. Psychologist]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[When it comes to your mental health and who you seek guidance from, it is important to know who and why to choose who you choose.  If you are suffering from mental un-health, if you have a mood disorder (anxiety or depression), if you keep repeating patt]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[When it comes to your mental health and who you seek guidance from, it is important to know who and why to choose who you choose.  If you are suffering from mental un-health, if you have a mood disorder (anxiety or depression), if you keep repeating patterns that don't seem to take you anywhere but into BREAKDOWN (from a MIND MAP perspective), it is time to seek counseling from a licensed clinical mental health practitioner. 
 
If, on the other hand, you have done your psychological work, feel healthy and able to move forward and have a specific goal in mind (business goal, physical fitness goal, or perhaps a project that you need to complete but can't seem to), it may be a good idea to employ a life coach. Psychologists and other clinicians delve into the past.  Life coaches look at the now and focus on your future.  
 
Licensed mental health professionals have to pass licensing exams and meet their Board standards. Life coaches have no standards that they have to meet.  Fees vary a great deal within both professions.  
 
Whether you choose a life coach or a licensed mental health professional, make sure they have credentials, a solid treatment plan, and know their limitations in scope of practice.
 
We Shrunk The Tune, "Hello," by Adele - her latest hit song!]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>97301</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 12 Nov 2015 20:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:48</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Guidance,Life Coach,Mental Health Professional,mood disorder,anxiety,MIND MAP,psychologist,future,past,Board,fees,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Adele,success coaching,coaching,life coaching,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Joel Greenstein  -  Recovered Addict]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today, we had a special guest, Joel Greenstein, "Jim", one of Dr. Judy's case studies from her book BE THE CAUSE: HEALING HUMAN DISCONNECT now available at   www.amazon.com/Be-Cause-Healing-Human-Disconnect/dp/1514793032/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1449434292]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today, we had a special guest, Joel Greenstein, "Jim", one of Dr. Judy's case studies from her book BE THE CAUSE: HEALING HUMAN DISCONNECT now available at   www.amazon.com/Be-Cause-Healing-Human-Disconnect/dp/1514793032/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1449434292&sr=8-1&keywords=Dr+judy+rosenberg
 
Joel is a recovering crystal meth addict who has been sober for over 5 years.  He had to hit bottom several times before he was able to realize how devastating his disease actually was.  He wants to let addicts, whether alcoholics or anyone suffering from addiction that 12-Step group support is essential to recovery.
 
Becoming a part of the 12-Step community is a key factor in recovery.  Finding something that you believe in, whether it be the spirituality of the group, a Higher Power, and/or any Source that you deem as your higher power is essential to finding the humility required for spiritual growth.  
 
We had the honor of Shrinking Joel's original song, "NOT ENOUGH FAITH".  A Dr. Judy WTF exclusive.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>97874</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 03 Dec 2015 06:30:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:58:17</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,BE THE CAUSE: HEALING HUMAN DISCONNECT,addict,crystal meth,alcoholics,12-Step,spirituality,Higher Power,Source,faith,MIND MAP,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Joel Greenstein,myths about addiction treatment]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[HOLE IN THE SOUL OF CELEBRITIES WHO DIED TOO SOON]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Why is it that so many celebrities die before their time (full life span)?   Today we spoke of many who passed in their 20's, 30's, 40's and early 50's (singer Michael Jackson).  Just recently Scott Weiland of Stone Temple Pilots overdosed and died.
 
Ov]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Why is it that so many celebrities die before their time (full life span)?   Today we spoke of many who passed in their 20's, 30's, 40's and early 50's (singer Michael Jackson).  Just recently Scott Weiland of Stone Temple Pilots overdosed and died.
 
Over a month ago Lamar Odom overdosed and struggles to survive as we speak.  WTF is going on?  From a MIND MAP perspective, it all goes back to CAUSE--first few years of life and the parenting that these celebrities did and didn't get.
 
When the deadly combination of lack of emotional nutrients (to form a health human psyche we need healthy parenting to include breast feeding, skin contact, consistency, emotional attunement and safety), and extreme pressure to perform publicly dove-tail, these stars can implode and die.  As much as we want to think that celebrities are thick skinned, most are not.  Many celebrities were not off to an emotionally healthy first few years of life and can't withstand the pressure of being famous.
 
Drugs sex and rock and roll can act as "hole in the soul" fillers and when used to self sooth and cope with emotions, they can kill.  With extreme pressure to perform for the public, the emotional capacity of the celebrity can be stretched beyond limits, and the incentive to shore up their emotions is strong. No one is super human.  But when burdened with super human demands and little inner resources, stars start to die.
 
We Shrunk The Tune: "Plush" by Scott Weiland and other members of the band Stone Temple Pilots."]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>98017</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 10 Dec 2015 08:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:20</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Hole in the soul,celebrities,Lamar Odom,Michael Jackson,Scott Weiland,implode,stars,drugs,sex,rock and roll,MIND MAP,Be The Cause,parenting,Dr. Judy WTF,breast feeding,attunement. famous,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,John Bonham,Elvis Presley,Sigmund Freud,Celebrities who died before 30]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Feeling Disconnected for the Holidays?]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Deck the halls with ... family arguments?  Not on Christmas and New Years!  Not all families are created peaceful.  Some families have rifts and resentments that run deep. The key to keeping the peace is to understand that get togethers are not about rev]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Deck the halls with ... family arguments?  Not on Christmas and New Years!  Not all families are created peaceful.  Some families have rifts and resentments that run deep. The key to keeping the peace is to understand that get togethers are not about revolution or resolution.
 
When feuding families come together, they can trip up each other's negative core beliefs such as "I'm not good enough, I'm unlovable, I'm stupid." The list is endless.
 
When family members CLASH, the fallout material is not pleasant, and the party is over.  When you combine hostility with alcohol, the Truth Drug, matters can get worse.
If you are off to a family get together, keep it light, keep it casual, and don't drink too much.  If you can show up feeling good (take a yoga or workout class before the party, for example), chances are that you will have more emotional control.
 
If you must speak, use the Peaceful Healing Dialogue, or PHD (available at www.DrJudyWTF.com, under resources).
Better yet, read my new book BE THE CAUSE: HEALING HUMAN DISCONNECT http://bit.ly/1ORE8Sa so that you can get to the bottom of your family disconnects and heal from the inside out. 
 
We Shrunk The Tune, "Here's Jonny"   by Derick.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>98342</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 17 Dec 2015 18:55:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:59:59</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,MIND MAP,family arguments,Christmas,New Years,peaceful,resentments,Peaceful Healing Dialogue,alcohol,Truth Drug,emotional control,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Holidays,family]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[New Year's Resolutions!]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[The stats are in: Less than 25% of people who make new year’s resolutions keep them! 
To make sure new year's resolutions stick, be realistic and plan for success. 
 
It is best to focus on one resolution at a time--lose weight, stop smoking, start worki]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[The stats are in: Less than 25% of people who make new year’s resolutions keep them! 
To make sure new year's resolutions stick, be realistic and plan for success. 
 
It is best to focus on one resolution at a time--lose weight, stop smoking, start working out, but DON'T overwhelm yourself and bite off more than you can chew!
 
If you are dealing with an addiction like smoking or alcoholism for example, understand that your habit and the drug are intertwined and you may need much more than a resolution.  You may need a program including professional help to make sure that you gain the skills for long term success.
 
To make sure you don't sabotage your success, you must bust negative core beliefs that sound something like "I'm not worth it, I'm not important enough, or I'm not capable."  Negative core beliefs encode into the fiber of your being and through good therapy at the Psychological Healing Center - www.DrJudyWTF.com you can rid yourself of this saboteur and use a Mind Map to guide you through.  
 
We Shrunk The Tune  "New Day"  by  Alicia Keys
 
For SMOKERS!  You can purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's Stop Smoking Plan. Here's a link to that book too http://amzn.to/1ZbtKWi]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>98677</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 07 Jan 2016 19:40:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:49</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,New Year's Resolutions,lose weight,stop smoking,working out,addiction,habit,alcoholism program,sabotage,negative core beliefs,Psychological Healing Center,Dr. Judy's Habit Breakers Stop Smoking Plan,Mind Map,Be The Cause,Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect,Habit Breakers,Habit Breakers Stop Smoking Plan,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Alicia Keys,Change]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Cancer  -  The Caregiver]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Not only is cancer devastating to the patient, it also causes devastation to the family members, particularly the caregivers.  Caregivers must remember to care for themselves so they don't burn out. 
 
As is the case with all traumatic life events, cance]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Not only is cancer devastating to the patient, it also causes devastation to the family members, particularly the caregivers.  Caregivers must remember to care for themselves so they don't burn out. 
 
As is the case with all traumatic life events, cancer can bring out the best and worst in people. Today's call-in guest Cindy related her experience with her family's reaction to her being diagnosed with breast cancer at age 37.  Her mother, surprisingly abandoned her emotionally and fled to Paris for 6 months.  Her mother's reaction was characteristic of her inability to nurture her daughter and put her first.  Mother also suffered from losing her husband to liver cancer.  Her emotional bandwidth was shot.
 
Today we celebrate life and remember that people who suffer from cancer may have cancer, but cancer doesn't necessarily have them.
In celebration we Shrunk The Tune, "Dance", by David Bowie.
 
KEYWORDS:  Caregiver, cancer, family members, traumatic, Dr. Judy WTF, MIND MAP, David Bowie, liver cancer, emotional bandwidth, Be The Cause, Dr. Judy WTF, Walt Lusk, UBN Radio, UBNradio.com, Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy, Healing Human Disconnect, Be The Cause, John Bowlby, Attachment Theory, Hole in The Soul, Mind Map, Freud, Dr. Judy Rosenberg, Shrink That Tune, abandonment
 
 
Don't forget to purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's new book, Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect
Here's a link to purchase the book http://bit.ly/1OHJu3H
 
 
www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>98892</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 14 Jan 2016 11:40:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:46</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Cancer Part 2, The Caregiver]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Not only is cancer devastating to the patient, it also causes devastation to the family members, particularly the caregivers. Caregivers must remember to care for themselves so they don't burn out. 

As is the case with all traumatic life events, cancer ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Not only is cancer devastating to the patient, it also causes devastation to the family members, particularly the caregivers. Caregivers must remember to care for themselves so they don't burn out. 

As is the case with all traumatic life events, cancer can bring out the best and worst in people. Today's call-in guest Cindy related her experience with her family's reaction to her being diagnosed with breast cancer at age 37. Her mother, surprisingly abandoned her emotionally and fled to Paris for 6 months. Her mother's reaction was characteristic of her inability to nurture her daughter and put her first. Mother also suffered from losing her husband to liver cancer. Her emotional bandwidth was shot.

Today we celebrate life and remember that people who suffer from cancer may have cancer, but cancer doesn't necessarily have them.
In celebration we Shrunk The Tune, "Dance", by David Bowie.

Don't forget to purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's new book, Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect
Here's a link to purchase the book http://bit.ly/1OHJu3H


www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>99103</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 21 Jan 2016 18:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:09</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF,Dr Judy,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,Universal Broadcasting Network,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[SPOTLIGHT:  WHAT THE FILM!]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we Shrunk The Film, "Spotlight" a brilliant /Oscar nominated movie for Best Picture, Screenplay and a couple of the actors.  The theme of the movie, as discovered and written by The Boston Globe newspaper, is the cover-up of the crimes of sexual mo]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we Shrunk The Film, "Spotlight" a brilliant /Oscar nominated movie for Best Picture, Screenplay and a couple of the actors.  The theme of the movie, as discovered and written by The Boston Globe newspaper, is the cover-up of the crimes of sexual molestation of Catholic priests against children parallels the cover-up of sexual abuse of children within families. 
 
As we say on our show, "Childhood is a Hostage Situation."  Children are innocent victims and when institutions that represent God, Family, and Trust are used to violate the child, the sense of betrayal experienced by the child is Enormous.
 
All children believe that when bad things happen to them they are at fault.  Oftentimes when children are sexually abused they think that somehow they were the cause.  The guilt, shame, blame and secrecy that surrounds such abuse has devastating effects and creates what we call the "Hole in The Soul.'
 
The sexual predators in the Catholic Church and the bust of them was one of the most courageous and precise detective work ever conducted.  Today literally thousands of adults suffer from the PTSD (all over the world) of having been victimized by the very institution that was supposed to protect.  It is no surprise that the victims came from poor, fatherless, and/or vulnerable families that left themselves open to being violated.
 
We Shrunk The Tune: "Take Me To Church," by Hozier.
 
KEYWORDS:  MIND MAP, Dr. Judy WTF, Catholic Church, sexual molestation, childhood is a hostage situation, God, Family, Trust, violate, betrayal, Cause, secrecy, sexual predators, detective work, PTSD, SNAP.com, Hozier, sexual abuse, priests, Boston Globe, prettifies, victims, Victim Impact, Self Awareness, shame, Dr. Judy WTF, Walt Lusk, UBN Radio, UBNradio.com, Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy, Healing Human Disconnect, Be The Cause, John Bowlby, Attachment Theory, Hole in The Soul, Mind Map, Freud, Dr. Judy Rosenberg, Shrink That Tune, lost innocence, numb
 
Don't forget to purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's new book, Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect.
Here's a link to purchase the book  http://bit.ly/1OHJu3H
 
www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>99219</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 28 Jan 2016 20:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:18</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Tax and Mental Health with Enrolled Agent, Eve Rosenberg, EA]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Let's face it.  Tax is a hostage situation.  Everyone is beholden to the taxman, and few know the rules.  Eva Rosenberg, EA, otherwise known as Taxmama (Taxmama.com) spoke about how to get aggressive and deduct everything.  In her new book, available in ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Let's face it.  Tax is a hostage situation.  Everyone is beholden to the taxman, and few know the rules.  Eva Rosenberg, EA, otherwise known as Taxmama (Taxmama.com) spoke about how to get aggressive and deduct everything.  In her new book, available in paperback and print titled DEDUCT EVERYTHING, Eva talks about keeping good records.  When people keep good records, much can be deducted.
 
Different personality types relate to money in different ways.  Passive aggressive types may want to withhold paying taxes, but penalties can accrue and this is not a good idea.  The best way to handle taxes is to put aside a chunk for the government on a regular basis so you are not surprised with a big tax bill at the end of the season.
Be proactive, deduct, and know the law so you don't "red flag" yourself and trigger an audit.
 
Wee Shrunk The Tune, "Tax Man," by George Harrison and Eric Clapton.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>99804</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 04 Feb 2016 20:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:20</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF,Dr Judy,Judy Rosenberg,Walt Lusk,Eva Rosenberg,UBN Radio,Universal Broadcasting Network,dr-judy-wtf,podcast,Enrolled agent,Taxmama,Deduct Everything,tax,government,passive aggressive,good records,audit,MIND MAP,hostage situation,penalties,taxman. Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect,Dr. Judy WTF,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,George Harrison,Eric Clapton,taxman,CPA,record keeping,deductions]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Parenting:  How to Create a Healthy Secure Infant / Child]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we spoke about the ingredients for mental health and parenting.  The BEST thing future parents can do before having children is to heal their childhood emotional wounds so they don't visit them upon their children.
 
If you are a parent, same goes ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we spoke about the ingredients for mental health and parenting.  The BEST thing future parents can do before having children is to heal their childhood emotional wounds so they don't visit them upon their children.
 
If you are a parent, same goes for you.  Mental ‘unhealth’ is passed generation to generation.  Acts of abuse, neglect and smothering wound the child and throw them into emotional chaos.  The outcome is mental ‘unhealth’ including a slew of defense mechanisms they then must erect to cope -- defense mechanisms like drugs, overeating, and any other way they can find to self sooth and fill the hole in the soul.
 
Letting infants cry it out as in the Ferber Method does damage, as does hitting your child.  I believe that you can over time teach your children to self reflect and self correct.
 
Being too authoritarian can lead to sad children, being authoritative with good boundaries and listening to your children create secure happy children, and parents who set no boundaries create confused children with no boundaries.
 
We Shrunk The Tune: “Never Grow Up,” by Taylor Swift.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>99991</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2016 10:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:20</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Authoritarian,authoritative,no boundaries,parenting,emotional wounds,defense mechanisms,hole in the soul,hitting,cry it out,Ferber Method,self reflect,self correct,ingredients for mental health,Mind Map,Be The Cause,Healing Human Disconnect,drugs,overeating,Dr. Judy WTF,Peaceful Healing Dialogue,spanking,abuse,neglect,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Parenting:  How to Create a Healthy Secure Infant / Child Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[To Be The Cause of raising a healthy child can be a challenge, particularly when parents have needs of their own. Although Attachment Theory promotes Child-Centered parenting, it is vital that the nurturer, usually mother or primary caregiver is nurtured]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[To Be The Cause of raising a healthy child can be a challenge, particularly when parents have needs of their own. Although Attachment Theory promotes Child-Centered parenting, it is vital that the nurturer, usually mother or primary caregiver is nurtured.  Rather than taking vacations away from the young infant or child, parents are best off taking short breaks to self care. 
 
Today we spoke of breastfeeding, stay at home moms, and the importance of being primary to your children.  If you must go back to work, pick someone who is consistent and to care for your child or children.  Although daycare can often be the only option, try to stay home for as long as possible (1st year or two of life at least) to give your child en secure attachment. This investment is by far the best investment you will ever make.
 
Today forms of discipline were discussed.  Time out is a better option than yelling and hitting (not options at all) but the amount of time out has to be age appropriate.  Short time outs for younger children work best.  
 
We Shrunk The Tune, “I Hope You Dance”, by Lee Ann Womak.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>100205</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 18 Feb 2016 16:35:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:32</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[MIND MAP,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,child-centered,nurturer,breastfeeding,discipline,yelling,hitting,time out,self care,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,John Bowlby,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,parenting,parents,spanking,Lee Ann Womak,dr judy wtf,ubn radio,universal broadcasting network,dr judy rosenberg,walt lusk,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Trophy Kids]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Parents who use their kids to fill their own narcissistic needs for success cause great damage. Trophy kids are damaged in their self-esteem.  Because they have no voice and power to direct their own lives they are particularly in the bad hostage situati]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Parents who use their kids to fill their own narcissistic needs for success cause great damage. Trophy kids are damaged in their self-esteem.  Because they have no voice and power to direct their own lives they are particularly in the bad hostage situation. Sometimes one parent pressures the child to perform according to his or her agenda ball the other parent ignores the situation. The parent to ignore us is just as damaging to the child as the bully parent.

The wounds of the parents visit  the child in a multi-generational way.  To break out of the psychological process the trophy kid will have to find his or her voice and express the anger and upset caused by such parenting.  
 
We Shrunk The Tune… "Just Like You" by Three Days Grace]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>100326</guid>
        <pubDate>Fri, 26 Feb 2016 14:55:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:36</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Trophy Kids]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Parents who use their kids to fill their own narcissistic needs for success cause great damage. Trophy kids are damaged in their self-esteem.  Because they have no voice and power to direct their own lives they are particularly in the bad hostage situati]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Parents who use their kids to fill their own narcissistic needs for success cause great damage. Trophy kids are damaged in their self-esteem.  Because they have no voice and power to direct their own lives they are particularly in the bad hostage situation. Sometimes one parent pressures the child to perform according to his or her agenda ball the other parent ignores the situation. The parent to ignore us is just as damaging to the child as the bully parent.

The wounds of the parents visit  the child in a multi-generational way.  To break out of the psychological process the trophy kid will have to find his or her voice and express the anger and upset caused by such parenting.  
 
We Shrunk The Tune… "Just Like You" by Three Days Grace]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>100618</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 03 Mar 2016 09:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:52:15</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[trophy kids,Agenda,bully parent,Dr. Judy WTF,Mind Map,Multi-generational,hole in the soul,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Three Days Grace,Helicopter parents,controlling parents,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Children and Divorce]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[No matter what age, divorce has negative effects on children.  If you must separate, try to keep it peaceful and don't bad-mouth your ex to your children.  Be aware that children love both their parents and the more peaceful the relationship (or at least]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[No matter what age, divorce has negative effects on children.  If you must separate, try to keep it peaceful and don't bad-mouth your ex to your children.  Be aware that children love both their parents and the more peaceful the relationship (or at least neutral), the better the kids will do.
 
Children from divorced parents are 50% more likely to get divorced.  When the pillars of family structure are dismantled, children fall through the cracks: grades can begin to slip, drugs, sexual promiscuity, and other types of acting out behavior can manifest.
 
We Shrunk That Tune,  “11”, by Cassadee Pope.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>100680</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 03 Mar 2016 10:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:52:010</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Divorce,bad-mouth,pillars,acting out,drugs,promiscuity,MIND MAP,Dr. Judy WTF,Be The Cause,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Cassadee Pope,Parenting,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Affects of Fame]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Fame is a double edged sword. Although many try to achieve the status of fame, once they do there are many negative repercussions. Wondering if they are truly liked for who they are or who they represent is a dilemma for the famous. 

Often times fame le]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Fame is a double edged sword. Although many try to achieve the status of fame, once they do there are many negative repercussions. Wondering if they are truly liked for who they are or who they represent is a dilemma for the famous. 

Often times fame leaves people feeling disconnected isolated and paranoid. Not only does their fame affect them, fame also affects the significant others around them destroying their bubble of anonymity. 

As the singer Michael Jackson once said, “Fame can be imprisoning."

The depression the anger of feeling violated by the public including the paparazzi can wear on the famous. Defense Mechanisms such as isolation and using self-medication to block out the scrutiny is not uncommon. Relationships pressures on them including privacy issues can result in breaking down relationships.

We Shrunk The Tune "Fame", by David Bowie.

Don't forget to purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's new book, 
“Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect”
Here's a link to purchase the book http://bit.ly/1OHJu3H

www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>100764</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 10 Mar 2016 14:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:54</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF,Judy Rosenberg,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,Universal Broadcasting Network,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Phobias]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[The topic today was on phobia's.  In Dr. Judy MIND MAP style, she analyzed the CAUSE of phobias.  Phobias are often a projection of the original trauma that triggers fight flight.  For example, sharing with the audience her own fear of public speaking (w]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[The topic today was on phobia's.  In Dr. Judy MIND MAP style, she analyzed the CAUSE of phobias.  Phobias are often a projection of the original trauma that triggers fight flight.  For example, sharing with the audience her own fear of public speaking (which she overcame in college) Dr. Judy relates it back to being called "stupid" and how this negative core belief became activated by an elementary school teacher, causing to fear public speaking.
 
Common phobias include Agoraphobia or fear of heights, Fear of Public Speaking,
Claustrophobia or Fear of Small Spaces, and Arachnophobia or Fear of Spiders.  We even discuss the Fear of Flying where close to 35% of all flight staff has a fear of flying. 
 
Phobias are representations of the injuries or wounds of childhood. While some phobias have survival instinct value--fear of heights, fear of small spaces, and other such fears that may mean danger, most phobias are signals that something happened at the CAUSAL level.  
 
Techniques such as desensitization (slowly exposing the person to the fear) or flooding (flooding the person with their fear) are some techniques used to conquer fears. If you don't go back to the CAUSE, it is difficult to dismantle the root of the fear.
 
We SHRUNK THAT TUNE: “Phobias,” by The Kinks...]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>101119</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 17 Mar 2016 19:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:58:16</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[MIND MAP,CAUSE,Phobias,original trauma,negative core belief,Agoraphobia or fear of heights,Fear of Public Speaking,Claustrophobia,fear of small spaces,Arachnophobia,fear of spiders,survival instinct,fight flight,desensitization,flooding,dismantle,BE THE CAUSE,Dr. Judy WTF,The Kinks,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Fear of Flying,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Grief Part 1  -  Loss of a Job]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Unemployment is a growing challenge and many people experience the grief of losing a job.  Grief comes in stages.  At first people usually Deny what is happening and then starts the process of resistance and Bargaining.  Then Anger usually followed by De]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Unemployment is a growing challenge and many people experience the grief of losing a job.  Grief comes in stages.  At first people usually Deny what is happening and then starts the process of resistance and Bargaining.  Then Anger usually followed by Depression and eventually a sense Acceptance.
 
Let's not underestimate the pain and shame of being told that you are no longer needed at the workplace.  It is natural that negative core beliefs such as "I'm not good enough" or “I am not worthy” are triggered when we are rejected.  Job loss  affects not only the person who loses the job but others who depend on the person as well.
 
When we are bonded to peers it is difficult to change routine.  During periods of unemployment it is important to self-care and reevaluate what your passions are so that you can match your passion with your work if it all possible.  The theme of grief will be continued to include grieving the loss of a spouse to divorce or death, and grieving the loss of a child. Grief not only affects us emotionally, but also affects us physically.
 
Today we shrunk the tune "Tears in Heaven" by Eric Clapton.
 
Keywords: unemployment, grief, negative core beliefs, passion, death, divorce, job loss, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance, pain, family, unemployment, underemployment, love yourself, Dr. Judy WTF, Walt Lusk, UBN Radio, UBNradio.com, Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy, Healing Human Disconnect, Be The Cause, John Bowlby, Attachment Theory, Hole in The Soul, Mind Map, Freud, Dr. Judy Rosenberg, Shrink That Tune, Eric Clapton
 
Don't forget to purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's new book, “Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect”
Here's a link to purchase the book http://bit.ly/1OHJu3H
 
www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>101239</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 24 Mar 2016 18:50:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:40</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Grief Part 2  -  Divorce]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Our continued series on grief includes yet another serious life loss: The loss of a spouse to divorce.  Divorce is complicated.  Divorce involves not only the couple but the children and extended family as well. From a mind map perspective there is a lot]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Our continued series on grief includes yet another serious life loss: The loss of a spouse to divorce.  Divorce is complicated.  Divorce involves not only the couple but the children and extended family as well. From a mind map perspective there is a lot of chaos created during and after the process.
 
Divorce entails a shift in lifestyle and grief includes triggers that remind the person of the significant other. Songs, scents and locations filled with memories easily trigger grief. During the time of grief it is important to self-care and regroup on your priorities and self-reflect on your part in the relationship and what you need to do differently in the future including choosing a different type of partner.
 
We shrunk the tune…”Fade to Blank,”  by Metallica.
 
Keywords: grief, Divorce mind map self-care priorities self-reflect loss children chaos, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance, pain, family, Metallica, Dr. Judy WTF, Walt Lusk, UBN Radio, UBNradio.com, Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy, Healing Human Disconnect, Be The Cause, John Bowlby, Attachment Theory, Hole in The Soul, Mind Map, Freud, Dr. Judy Rosenberg, Shrink That Tune
 
Don't forget to purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's new book, “Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect”
Here's a link to purchase the book http://bit.ly/1OHJu3H
 
Psychological Healing Center now has its own iPhone App!
 
www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>101514</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 31 Mar 2016 11:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:51</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Grieving – Death of a Spouse or Child]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Grieving death activates old wounds of childhood loses, emotional injuries, and creates emotional Chaos that can break us down physically and emotionally.  Nothing is more disorienting than losing someone close to you.  Losing a spouse has tremendous imp]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Grieving death activates old wounds of childhood loses, emotional injuries, and creates emotional Chaos that can break us down physically and emotionally.  Nothing is more disorienting than losing someone close to you.  Losing a spouse has tremendous impact.  Loneliness, financial stress, becoming the odd person out in a world of couples is just part of the pain.

Memories can become triggered by familiar locations, scents, and sounds.  Anniversary dates and holidays are difficult to cope with.  Angry resentful feelings are natural reactions to death and the stages of adjustment take time and self-love to heal.

When we lose a child it takes on a whole other dimension of pain.  Children are not supposed to die before their parents.  Because men and women grieve differently, many marriages break down under this type of stress and the grieving parents don't know how to comfort each other.

Whether you are grieving a spouse or child, be easy on yourself and try to find a group of people who are grieving a similar loss.  Support of loved ones and those who can empathize essential at this time.

We Shrunk That Tune, “Gone Too Soon,” by Daughtry

KEYWORDS:  Grief, death, spouse, child, Chaos, MIND MAP, loneliness, financial stress, death, stages, support, anniversary dates, holidays, Dr. Judy WTF, Walt Lusk, UBN Radio, UBNradio.com, Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy, Healing Human Disconnect, Be The Cause, John Bowlby, Attachment Theory, Hole in The Soul, Mind Map, Freud, Dr. Judy Rosenberg, Shrink That Tune, Daughtry, loss of spouse, loss of child, grieving, denial, anger, acceptance, bargaining, Depression
 
Don't forget to purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's new book, “Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect”
Here's a link to purchase the book http://bit.ly/1OHJu3H
 
Psychological Healing Center now has its own iPhone App!
 
www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>101698</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 07 Apr 2016 19:15:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:37</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTf,ubn radio,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Resentment and Narcissism]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Resentment and narcissism are interconnected.  From a MIND MAP perspective, the more narcissistically injured the individual, the more they seem to resent others for not providing them their needs.  Unmet needs in early childhood--lack of "emotional nour]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Resentment and narcissism are interconnected.  From a MIND MAP perspective, the more narcissistically injured the individual, the more they seem to resent others for not providing them their needs.  Unmet needs in early childhood--lack of "emotional nourishment" if you will, lie at the root of narcissism, a way of being that demeans, devalues and destroys others.
 
Today we had the honor of having a few call-ins discuss their resentments and how wounds of childhood lay down the emotional injuries that can lead to resentment later in life.  The opposite of resentment is appreciation.
 
Please note, just because you have feelings of resentment, it doesn't make you a narcissist!  People who harbor resentment often have negative core beliefs like "life is not fair!" This type of philosophy can come from being treated unfairly in the formative years of life.
 
We Shrunk That Tune,  “Cleanin’ Out My Closet”  by Eminem]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>101876</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 14 Apr 2016 09:10:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>1:05:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Resentment,narcissism,interconnected,emotional nourishment,demean,devalue,destroy,negative core beliefs,Mind Map,formative years,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Eminem,pain,Dr Judy WTF,ubn radio,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Escaping Psychological Prison]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[To whatever degree, mild, moderate, or severe, most of us are locked in our own psychological prison.  The lockdown occurs when we absorb the wounds from childhood from both our mothers and fathers. The extent to which we cannot turn to them for nurturan]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[To whatever degree, mild, moderate, or severe, most of us are locked in our own psychological prison.  The lockdown occurs when we absorb the wounds from childhood from both our mothers and fathers. The extent to which we cannot turn to them for nurturance and support is the extent to which we are locked in that double dungeon of darkness.
 
In the double dungeon of darkness we experience pain and suffering in the form of depression, anxiety or whatever symptoms we carry.  Unless we are able to allow the psychological poisons to express themselves and reprocess, it is hard to escape from them.
 
Through healthy therapeutic self-expression we can begin to shift out of our limiting past, reboot our psychological system and recoded into health.
 
Even though childhood is a hostage situation we get to be the cause of better outcomes to part two of our lives.
 
We Shrunk The Tune, “Time To Go Inward”, by Rodney Crowell. 
 
Keywords:  psychological prison, wounds of childhood, nurturance, support, depression, anxiety, Reboot, recode, hostage situation, Be The Cause, better outcomes, Dr. Judy WTF, Walt Lusk, UBN Radio, UBNradio.com, Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy, Healing Human Disconnect, Be The Cause, John Bowlby, Attachment Theory, Hole in The Soul, Mind Map, Freud, Dr. Judy Rosenberg, Shrink That Tune, Rodney Crowell
 
Don't forget to purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's new book, “Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect”
Here's a link to purchase the book http://bit.ly/1OHJu3H
 
Psychological Healing Center now has its own iPhone App!
 
www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>101998</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 21 Apr 2016 21:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:46</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF,ubn radio,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Why Parents Hate Their Children]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Hateful feelings from parent to child are bound to be a part of the parenting experience, and for the most part, are normal.  After all, children change parent's lives forever.  From the pain of birth, lack of sleep to financial stressors, it is impossib]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Hateful feelings from parent to child are bound to be a part of the parenting experience, and for the most part, are normal.  After all, children change parent's lives forever.  From the pain of birth, lack of sleep to financial stressors, it is impossible for parents to deny that at times they are anywhere from annoyed, to resentful of their child or children. 
 
When parents go too far in the hate process, there is more going on than meets the eye.  Today we spoke about the parental projection process and why parents project negative feelings onto their children.  Starting with parents who themselves didn't get good enough parenting, it makes sense that parents who didn't "get" have little to "give." 
 
Life gets complicated and when children, particularly unwanted children get born into families as a result of unwanted pregnancy or more radically when they are a product of rape, the projection process can trigger resentment and hostility towards the absent parent, particularly if the child looks like that parent.
 
Emotions are not always black and white and one of the hardest things to contend with are feelings of ambivalence toward your own child.  Don't judge yourself too harshly if you find that you have negative feelings towards your child, but DO get help if the feelings are extreme and you find yourself projecting your pain onto them.
 
We Shrunk The Tune: “Rock A-Bye Baby.”  We also listened to Andre Lefebvre’s and his musical expression of the Hole In The Soul.  You can check out his music at,
www.barefootheartmusic.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>103063</guid>
        <pubDate>Fri, 20 May 2016 13:15:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:50:05</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[UBNRadio,Universal Broadcasting Network,Dr,Judy WTF,Dr. Judy,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Healing Trauma In The Middle East]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Our fascinating guest Gina Ross, MFCC spoke about trauma in the middle east and how to heal it. An expert in PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and how to deactivate trauma on the spot as it is happening in our violent world, Gina travels frequently t]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Our fascinating guest Gina Ross, MFCC spoke about trauma in the middle east and how to heal it. An expert in PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and how to deactivate trauma on the spot as it is happening in our violent world, Gina travels frequently to the middle east.
 
She the Founder/President of the International Trauma Healing Institute.  Gina illuminated the association of trauma and anger/hostility: when the primitive brain is traumatized, aggression is a reaction to the wound.
 
Her techniques on "how to" deactivate the devastating effects of collective and individual trauma on the psyche can be better understood by reading her book: BEYOND THE TRAUMA VORTEX INTO THE HEALING VORTEX, and the Ross method, available at her website ....
 
We Shrunk That Tune, “Zombie” by the Cranberries.
 
KEYWORDS:  Middle East, trauma, healing PTSD, deactivate, anger, hostility, primitive brain, wound collective trauma, psyche, vortex, Dr. Judy WTF, Walt Lusk, UBN Radio, UBNradio.com, Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy, Healing Human Disconnect, Be The Cause, John Bowlby, Attachment Theory, Hole in The Soul, Mind Map, Freud, Dr. Judy Rosenberg, Shrink That Tune, Cranberries
 
Don't forget to purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's new book, “Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect”
Here's a link to purchase the book http://bit.ly/1OHJu3H
 
Psychological Healing Center now has its own iPhone App!
 
www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>103218</guid>
        <pubDate>Fri, 27 May 2016 15:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:33</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,Gina Ross,UBN Radio,Universal Broadcasting Network,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Adoption]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[How does attachment theory and adoption relate?  Tonight we spoke of the challenges of being adopted--from being adopted close to birth, to being adopted after several experiences with foster homes.  The better and more secure the attachment of the child]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[How does attachment theory and adoption relate?  Tonight we spoke of the challenges of being adopted--from being adopted close to birth, to being adopted after several experiences with foster homes.  The better and more secure the attachment of the child, the less trauma to the psyche.  When a baby is adopted early on--first few days of life, the transition is usually easier for all involved.  The more stability, the more security.
 
The theme of when to tell your child that he or she is adopted was discussed, as was how to handle the "adoption conversation." Even though the adoptive parent is who the child bonds with, they may still be curious about the bio-mom and/or dad.
 
If you are thinking of adopting a child, at the end of the day, unconditional love is the most healing force on the planet and love is thicker than blood. Parenthood is not about the biology but about the love and care you give your child.  
 
We Shrunk The Tune, “I Want You to Want Me,”  by  Cheap Trick.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>103375</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 02 Jun 2016 21:35:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:51:15</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr judy wtf,ubn radio,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Adoption,attachment theory,foster homes. age. secure attachment,bio-mom,bio-dad,"adoption conversation." unconditional love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Cheap Trick]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Dating after 50  -  Part 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Certainly a challenge, dating after 50 is different than dating in your 20's 30's and even 40's.  As we age our baggage can get bigger and matching bags are sometimes hard to coordinate. 
 
Many people in their 50's plus are lonely and would love to shar]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Certainly a challenge, dating after 50 is different than dating in your 20's 30's and even 40's.  As we age our baggage can get bigger and matching bags are sometimes hard to coordinate. 
 
Many people in their 50's plus are lonely and would love to share their life with another person, HOWEVER there is resistance.  Health issues, sexual issues, body image consciousness, blending families, financial issues as examples can put a dent in the budding relationship.
 
Many choose to opt out of getting married again, or even entering into a relationship for those reasons.  Yet many still choose to tie the knot.  Financial reasons are practical reasons people choose to share their lives: Insurance and tax benefits, splitting rent/mortgage, having more "fun" money to spend, all factor in. 
 
Staving off loneliness is another major practical reason for pairing up. Who wants to die alone?
 
Even though our mind body spirit is a little older, we are still wired for love and connection, no matter what our age.  Love is a great motivator no matter what our age.
 
We Shrunk The Tune: “7 Years”  by Lukas Graham]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>103556</guid>
        <pubDate>Fri, 10 Jun 2016 13:55:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>1:01:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Universal Broadcasting Network,UBNRadio,Dr Judy,Dating,Mature,baggage,lonely,health issues,sexual issues,blending families,marriage,financial issues,connection,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Lukas Graham,Mature Dating,Senior Dating]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[OVER 50 AND DATING PART 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Certainly a challenge, dating after 50 is different than dating in your 20's 30's and even 40's.  As we age our baggage can get bigger and matching bags are sometimes hard to coordinate. 
 
Many people in their 50's plus are lonely and would love to shar]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Certainly a challenge, dating after 50 is different than dating in your 20's 30's and even 40's.  As we age our baggage can get bigger and matching bags are sometimes hard to coordinate. 
 
Many people in their 50's plus are lonely and would love to share their life with another person, HOWEVER there is resistance.  Health issues, sexual issues, body image consciousness, blending families, financial issues as examples can put a dent in the budding relationship.
 
Many choose to opt out of getting married again, or even entering into a relationship for those reasons.  Yet many still choose to tie the knot.  Financial reasons are practical reasons people choose to share their lives: Insurance and tax benefits, splitting rent/mortgage, having more "fun" money to spend, all factor in. 
 
Staving off loneliness is another major practical reason for pairing up. Who wants to die alone?
 
Even though our mind body spirit is a little older, we are still wired for love and connection, no matter what our age.  Love is a great motivator no matter what our age.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>103727</guid>
        <pubDate>Fri, 17 Jun 2016 15:05:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:51:55</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dating,Mature,baggage,lonely,health issues,sexual issues,blending families,marriage,financial issues,connection,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Lukas Graham,Mature Dating,Senior Dating,UBNRadio,Universal Broadcasting Network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Rape  /  Sexual Violence]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[The statistics are that someone is raped in the United States every 2 minutes.
Most people who are raped are between 17 and 64 years of age.  Some of the victims are men, but most are female.  Rape is a violent crime that can devastate a person mentally,]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[The statistics are that someone is raped in the United States every 2 minutes.
Most people who are raped are between 17 and 64 years of age.  Some of the victims are men, but most are female.  Rape is a violent crime that can devastate a person mentally, physically and spiritually.
 
If you are a victim of rape, it is essential that you get help immediately.  Reporting the crime is part of reclaiming your power, and early intervention can help treat the post trauma or PTSD that often occurs after such a violent event sooner.
 
An overlooked aspect of rape is the not talked about taboo of "telling" on the rapist. 
Most people who are raped are violated by someone they know and speaking the truth can sometimes get denied for the sake of not rocking the family boat. 
 
This denial of the truth can do much more damage to the victim because now they must also deal with betrayal and repression.  Through early intervention through therapy the rape victim can fully express their anger, hurt, shame and guilt and deal with any feelings that may involve self-blame and fault.
It's not their fault!
 
We Shrunk The Tune "Date Rape" by Sublime.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>103967</guid>
        <pubDate>Fri, 24 Jun 2016 13:20:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:24</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[rape,victims,post trauma. PTSD. taboo,betrayal,repression,self-blame,therapy,blame,shame,guilt,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Sublime,Sexual Assault,Sexual Violence,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[ARE YOU A CANDIDATE FOR THERAPY?]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[There are certain people who are more candidate ready for therapy than others.  I've had mothers who "make" their sons or daughters come in for therapy, or spouses/significant others force their other to show up or ship out.
 
You can't MAKE another pers]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[There are certain people who are more candidate ready for therapy than others.  I've had mothers who "make" their sons or daughters come in for therapy, or spouses/significant others force their other to show up or ship out.
 
You can't MAKE another person go to therapy.  Therapy is NOT a hostage situation (unlike childhood!).  Typically people who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder are DIFFICULT candidates for therapy as they will demean, devalue or destroy their therapist.   Paranoid personalities and avoidant personality disorders like to avoid thus are also less likely to show up.
 
People who are in crisis are typically the ones who show up.  A crisis is a good catalyst for bringing issues to a head and breaking down old defenses so that people bottom out and shift.
 
We Shrunk That Tune “Basket Case”  by  Green Day.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>104118</guid>
        <pubDate>Fri, 01 Jul 2016 12:55:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:50:09</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[UBNRadio,Universal Broadcasting Network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf,Candidate,therapy,hostage situation,narcissistic personality disorder,paranoid,avoidant,crisis,catalyst,breaking down,defenses,shift,Green Day,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Therapy myths]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Laughter and Fun]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Laughter is worth a thousand words.  The benefits of laughter include a lowering of cortisol -- the stress hormone, and a couple of hours of stress release.  Babies laugh over 100 times a day, while adults over 40 only laugh four times a day -- no wonder]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Laughter is worth a thousand words.  The benefits of laughter include a lowering of cortisol -- the stress hormone, and a couple of hours of stress release.  Babies laugh over 100 times a day, while adults over 40 only laugh four times a day -- no wonder we are so stressed out!
 
Our guest today was Brooke from Alabama who lead a lot of "Laugh" seminars and ascribes to humor, play and laughter as great medicine for the psyche and soul.
 
When people laugh in therapy it indicates that they have therapeutic perspective about themselves and authentically connect to a truth.  Through laughter and play we can interconnect, improve intimacy, improve our resistance to disease, reduce our pain, lower our stress level and free up our creative soulful selves.  
 
We Shrunk That Tune: “I Love To Laugh” from the wonderful Disney movie “Mary Poppins”.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>104347</guid>
        <pubDate>Fri, 08 Jul 2016 19:13:34 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:50:23</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Laughter,cortisol,stress hormone,stress,laugh seminars,play,humor,authenticity,interconnect,creative,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Mary Poppins,Intimacy,Less Stress,Fun,Interconnect,less pain,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[When is it Time to Leave a Bad Relationship?]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today's guest was a preacher from the south who encounters many couples who choose unwisely.  There is no pat answer for when it's time to leave a relationship although most agree that if there is any type of violence, addiction or infidelity, it may mea]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today's guest was a preacher from the south who encounters many couples who choose unwisely.  There is no pat answer for when it's time to leave a relationship although most agree that if there is any type of violence, addiction or infidelity, it may mean the end of the relationship for many.
 
Although many people can work through tough issues, it is usually not wise to stay when one feels taken advantage of or vampired by the other.  When one plus one is less than two, or when there is absolutely no "light" or synergy in a relationship, it may be time to leave.
 
Whether it is wise to stay for the children is determined by the damaging role modeling the relationship has on them.
 
We Shrunk The Tune “Head Games” by Foreigner.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>104579</guid>
        <pubDate>Fri, 15 Jul 2016 12:15:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:47</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[couples,leave a relationship,violence,addiction,infidelity,vampire,synergy,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Head Games,Foreigner,Marriage,Loveless Marriage,unhappy marriage,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Covert Narcissism]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>104756</guid>
        <pubDate>Wed, 27 Jul 2016 12:30:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:41</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[UBNRadio,Universal Broadcasting Network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Vincent Genna, MSW]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today's guest was Vincent Genna who is a renowned author, psychic, medium, speaker, and psychotherapist.  Vincent concurs that our world Chaos is a result of our inner chaos.  We talked about intuition and developing our psychic ability so that we can be]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today's guest was Vincent Genna who is a renowned author, psychic, medium, speaker, and psychotherapist.  Vincent concurs that our world Chaos is a result of our inner chaos.  We talked about intuition and developing our psychic ability so that we can become part of the bigger picture and learn to interconnect with each other.
 
We all are psychic and with effort we can develop this other sense that can also be used as a great psychotherapeutic tool.
 
You can learn more about Vincent Genna, MSW at www.VIncentGenna.com
 
We Shrunk That Tune, , Let Me Fall,” by Josh Gorban]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>104845</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 28 Jul 2016 17:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:31</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Keywords psychic,psychotherapist,interconnect,chaos,intuition,Vincent Genna,Judging,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Josh Gorban,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Gina Ross, MFCC on Cultural Injuries  and Black Lives Matter]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today's guess was psychotherapist Gina Ross.  She specializes in healing trauma.  The theme of black lives matter is an example of a cultural injury and a reaction to that cultural injury. 
 
It is important that we are able to empathize and step into ot]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today's guess was psychotherapist Gina Ross.  She specializes in healing trauma.  The theme of black lives matter is an example of a cultural injury and a reaction to that cultural injury. 
 
It is important that we are able to empathize and step into other people's shoes so that we can reduce the trauma and the reaction to that trauma and begin the healing process. Each and every culture suffers from their own unique cultural injury.  When their particular wound is activated fear and anger are natural reactions.
 
At the psychological healing center we take into consideration the cultural roots of our patients and how to bring healing to these macro issues. 
Check out our website www.HealingGlobalDisconnect.com and join the conversation with us on how to become more humane.
 
We Shrunk that Tune , “Brother Louie”  By Hot Chocolate]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>105009</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 04 Aug 2016 10:20:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:34</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[healing global disconnect,trauma,reaction,cultural injuries,psychological healing center,empathize,anger,macro injuries,Hot Chocolate,Brother Louie,Gina Ross,Black Lives Matter,wounds,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,dr judy wtf,ubn radio,universal broadcasting network,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Effects of a Narcissistic Mother on Her Children  -  Part 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Narcissistic mothers are injured people.  All injuries are multi-generational, meaning they get passed down from one generation to the next.  When a parent is narcissistically injured they will project their injuries onto their children unless they take ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Narcissistic mothers are injured people.  All injuries are multi-generational, meaning they get passed down from one generation to the next.  When a parent is narcissistically injured they will project their injuries onto their children unless they take the time to heal their own childhood wounds before becoming parents.
Narcissistic wounds become embedded into the human psyche in the first few years of life.  According to Attachment Theory (John Bowlby, MD) in order to form a healthy human psyche we must attune to the emotions of our infants.  Through this attuning and “good enough” mothering, infants learn to self-soothe and establish a healthy core self.
Basic ingredients for mental health according to John Bowlby, MD include breast feeding, eye contact, skin contact, stay-at-home mothering (at least for the first plus two years of life) and a general attitude of child-centered parenting.   When these ingredients are lacking, the infant/child is then lacking in “narcissistic supplies” which leaves them feeling empty.
Narcissistic injuries can be a result of abuse in the form of neglect, physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse and smothering.   When a mother abuses, neglects or smothers the infant, the infant cannot grow emotionally.  ‘
Children of narcissistic mothers suffer deeply because they become the narcissistic supply for the mother, rather than the mother supplying their emotional needs.  They are groomed to supply and satisfy mother’s needs which creates a reverse flow of emotions.  Much of what a narcissistic mother does “behind closed doors” is quite different from what the rest of the world sees making it more difficult on her children.
We Shrink That Tune, “Applause” by Lady Gaga

Don't forget to purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's new book, “Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect”
Here's a link to purchase the book http://bit.ly/1OHJu3H
 
Psychological Healing Center now has its own iPhone App!]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>105173</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 11 Aug 2016 16:40:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:14</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Narcissistic mothers,neglect,physical abuse,verbal abuse,sexual abuse,smothering,narcissistic supply,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Lady Gaga,Deniable,Boundaries,Undermines,Demeans,Crazy,Envious,Liar,Manipulation,Selfish,Rejecting,Petty,Shameless,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Effects of a Narcissistic Mother on Her Children  -  Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[A common narcissistic defense mechanism is "splitting".  Narcissistic mothers often over idealize one child and devalue the other.  The "golden child" or favorite, is idealized, and the other is victimized. Both children are damaged by this treatment.  H]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[A common narcissistic defense mechanism is "splitting".  Narcissistic mothers often over idealize one child and devalue the other.  The "golden child" or favorite, is idealized, and the other is victimized. Both children are damaged by this treatment.  Her children take in the projection and identify with her good/bad message.
 
Although the "good" child may feel special in the family system, he or she can become furious when the world doesn't comply with the special treatment.  The "bad" child will buy into negative core beliefs such as "I'm not good enough" or "I will never be lovable" thinking that there is something wrong with him or her. In this family, mother fosters sibling rivalry to rid herself of her own toxic feelings.
 
Remember, narcissistic individuals are hurt individuals who vampire other's emotions to fulfill their own emotional needs.
 
We Shrunk That Tune  “Blank Space”  by Taylor Swift.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>105319</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 18 Aug 2016 11:55:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:55</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[narcissistic defense,over idealize,devalue,golden child,projection,identification,special,negative core beliefs,sibling rivalry,vampire,emotional needs,Infantile and Petty,Aggressive,Shameless,Exploitative,No-Win” Situations,Blames,Destroys Your Relationships,Goes Pathetic,Taylor Swift,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBN Radio,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Borderline Mothers  -  Part 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[People wonder what the difference is between Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).  The key difference is that BPD's are centered around avoiding abandonment, whereas NPD's are centered around making sure that]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[People wonder what the difference is between Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).  The key difference is that BPD's are centered around avoiding abandonment, whereas NPD's are centered around making sure that they are constantly the center of attention.
 
Children of BPD's do not get consistent emotional parenting.  The attachment style is typically ambivalent anxious.  The children of BPD's serve to make sure that the mother is never abandoned.  Rather than the focus being on regulating the children's feelings, it is the children that have the terrible burden of regulating mother's feelings. 
 
A few of the characteristics of BPD:  Unstable Relationships, Black and White Thinking, Fear of Abandonment, Impulsive and self-Destructive Behavior, Distorted Self Image, and Problems Regulating Emotions and Thoughts. 
 
We Shrunk That Tune: “Hot and Cold”  By Katy Perry]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>106036</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 01 Sep 2016 15:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:46</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Borderline Personality Disorder,BPD,Narcissistic Personality Disorder,NPD,abandonment,attention,ambivalent attachment,anxious attachment,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Abandonment,Fear of Abandonment,Impulsive,Self-Destructive,Self-Image,Emotional,Black and White Thinking,Katy Perry,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Borderline Mothers  -  Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Thank you for all those who called the show today.  It is very evident that children raised by borderline personality disorder (BPD) mothers suffer a great deal.  Rather than being emotionally regulated by mother, the reverse occurs, and children become ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Thank you for all those who called the show today.  It is very evident that children raised by borderline personality disorder (BPD) mothers suffer a great deal.  Rather than being emotionally regulated by mother, the reverse occurs, and children become their mothers emotional support system. 
 
Mothers who suffer from BPD exhibit much emotional instability and sometimes act out through substance-abuse, cutting, and even threats of suicide.  These mothers create unstable attachment and a chaotic world where the children do not have a predictable emotional environment to grow up in.
 
Today we shrunk the tune, “Boulevard of Broken Dreams”,  by Green Day]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>106182</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 08 Sep 2016 11:50:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:52</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[BPD,borderline personality disorder,emotionally regulated,sulfur,emotional support system,emotional instability,act out,unstable attachment,chaotic world,healing global disconnect.com,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,John Bowlby,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Green Day,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[The Ups & Downs of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) & The Effects on Others  -  Part 3]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[People who suffer from borderline personality disorder, otherwise known as BPD, are destabilized in their emotions.  A common defense mechanism they use is "splitting" where they may overvalue a person and then devalue them at a later time. The effects o]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[People who suffer from borderline personality disorder, otherwise known as BPD, are destabilized in their emotions.  A common defense mechanism they use is "splitting" where they may overvalue a person and then devalue them at a later time. The effects on others is devastating because you never really know where they or you stand.
 
People who suffer from this disorder have a fear of abandonment and suffer from chronic feelings of emptiness.  They may latch on in relationships and never let go even when their significant other no longer wants to be attached.
 
Acting out is not uncommon when they perceive real and or imagined abandonment.  Cutting, substance-abuse and threats of suicide are some of the signs of their acting out behavior.  People who suffer from BPD need help to stabilize emotionally and eventually get into attachments that are secure. 
 
We Shrunk The Tune, “Who Are You?”, By The Who]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>106328</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2016 13:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:56</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[borderline personality disorder,BPD,Chronic feelings of emptiness,acting out,cutting,substance-abuse,suicide,splitting,The Who,Cutting,Spitting,act out,unstable attachment,anxious attachment,Fear of Abandonment,Impulsive,Self-Destructive,Self-Image,Emotional,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[People Pleasers -  Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA.  You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SK]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA.  You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
 
Tonight's special call-in guest "Amy," is a patient that works with Dr. Judy.  She shared how her people pleasing psychopathology led her to bleed out her emotions and finances by supporting her ex-husband who was a drug addict at the time that she was married to him.
 
The toll it took on her was immense: emotional, financial, and health consequences were all part of the price tag she paid.  Blueprinted to be a people pleaser, it is no surprise that she repeated the dynamics in her adult life.  As a result of “Amy” being ‘vampired’ and such a People Pleaser, she became quite stressed out.
 
People pleasers oftentimes become emotionally and physically sick from giving. If you are people pleaser, please seek help. 
At the Psychological Healing Center we have therapists who work on a sliding scale fee and can help you shift out of this horrible dynamic.
 
We Shrunk That Tune… “People Pleaser” by Korn]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>106851</guid>
        <pubDate>Mon, 03 Oct 2016 14:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:19</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[people pleaser,psychopathology,emotional,financial,health consequences,blue printed,dynamics,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,www.HealingGlobalDisconnect.com,Korn,co-dependents,narcissists,Abandonment,Fear of Failure,Neglect Self,Resentment,Passive Aggressive,Stress,Depression,Boundaries,Emotional Caretaker,Cannot say NO,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[People Pleasers]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we spoke about people pleasers.  People pleasers often pair up with narcissists.  They fit like hand in glove. 
 
People pleasers (often times they are known as co-dependents) bleed out emotionally because they feel that in order to be loved they h]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we spoke about people pleasers.  People pleasers often pair up with narcissists.  They fit like hand in glove. 
 
People pleasers (often times they are known as co-dependents) bleed out emotionally because they feel that in order to be loved they have to keep giving, and who better to accept their emotional supplies then the narcissistically wounded person with a bottomless hole in the soul.
 
In this dysfunctional system, the people pleaser ends up exhausted physically and emotionally and may eventually turn passive aggressive or continue to give until the end of the relationship. 
 
This relationship dynamic lacks intimacy.
The narcissist feels in control, the people pleaser feels that he / she will eventually be loved, but at the end of the road there is no interconnection.
The relationship usually implodes, explodes or both.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>106666</guid>
        <pubDate>Tue, 04 Oct 2016 12:30:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:21</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[People pleasers,co-dependents,narcissists,therapy,Bill Withers,Abandonment,Fear of Failure,Neglect Self,Resentment,Passive Aggressive,Stress,Depression,Boundaries,Emotional Caretaker,Can’t say NO,Nice,Fear,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,heart-of-spirit-radio-with-fleur-and-lauren,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[People Pleasers -  Part 3]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA.  You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SK]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA.  You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
 
People pleasers typically attract people who want to take from them.  They usually end up emotionally bleeding out and physically exhausted. 
 
We discussed ways To Stop this horrific cycle: it is important to establish clear boundaries, Learn to say. “No”, Stop saying you are “Sorry”, Stop wanting to be loved by “Everyone,” Make Time for YOU, and More…
 
Today's caller "Sheila" is a self-diagnosed borderline personality disorder or who spoke about how she has been drained as a result of people pleasing. The emotional toll lead to self-harm including suicide attempts. When faced with this challenge it is important to learn how to say no to takers and to say yes to the people who nourish and nurture.
 
We Shrunk That Tune, “People Pleasers”  by  Andy Allo.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>107038</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 13 Oct 2016 13:50:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:40</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[people pleasers,boundaries,borderline personality disorder,emotional toll,self-harm,say no,Boundaries,Fear of Failure,Neglect Self,Resentment,Passive Aggressive,Stress,Depression,Emotional Caretaker,Can’t say NO,Nice,Fear,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Hum,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[The Mind of a Psychopath and Anti-Social Disorder]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA.  You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SK]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA.  You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
 
Psychopaths lack empathy.  From a CAUSAL point of view, they are able to hurt people because they themselves Are hurt people.  Projecting their pain on others is their defense mechanism and way of victimizing others in reaction to being victimized.
 
Extreme childhood trauma/abuse including physical sexual verbal abuse and neglect are causal factors behind why they act out on others. These extreme narcissistic injuries, or injuries to the self-leave them unable to act ethically and value human life.  
 
We Shrunk The Tune.. “Behind Blue Eyes”   by  The Who]]></itunes:summary>
        <enclosure url="https://mr-a.akamaihd.net/c/m/6/2/9/5/6295207cb3cf990e4676d3ac4e04183e56a41853/de768ff95b8ab7fdf50b426e8005ea1df59f123d.mp3" type="audio/mpeg"/>
        <guid>107213</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 20 Oct 2016 11:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:08</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Psychopath,Antisocial Personality Disorder,narcissistic injuries,causal,projection,trauma,abuse,sexual,emotional physical abuse,superficial charm,cunning,manipulative,no remorse,callous,liar,grandiose,arrogant,Deceitful,The Who,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Patricide/Matricide: Why Children Kill their Parents]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA.  You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SK]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA.  You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
Parricide (the Father is Murdered by his child) and Matricide (The Mother is Murdered by her child) are not common.  When children turn on their parents it is because of severe abuse.
  
The Menendez brothers, a high profile example, were extremely sexually verbally and physically abused.   The father perpetrated unconscionable sexual abuse while mother did nothing to stop him. 
  
In such cases of extreme abuse children can turn against their parents. It's a sad predicament because society doesn't protect against child abuse well enough and when children have had enough they are delegated to life in prison.
 
Remember, there is a big difference between your child saying, :I hate you!” and “I wish you were dead!”
 
We Shrunk that Tune… “Janie’s Got a Gun”  by Aerosmith.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>107357</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 27 Oct 2016 16:50:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:04</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[parricide matricide severe abuse sexual verbal physical abuse prison,Hate,Pain,No Choice,Aerosmith,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Family Systems, the Narcissist and The Lost Child]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SK]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
 
When the family system is dysfunctional, the children become the fallout material.  Parents who put themselves before their children, parents who smother, abuse and neglect, create dis-ease in their children.
 
The Golden Child is the favorite child who is then devalued later.
The Scapegoat is the child who gets the brunt of the issues.
The Lost Child is the ignored child who seems OK on the outside but suffers from loneliness and sometimes from suicidal ideation on the inside.
 
The elections are bringing out our worst sense of family dysfunction.
Rather than this election uniting us, it is dividing us.
This election seems to replicate the bad family dynamics many of us grew up with. 
 
We Shrunk the Tune, “Message in a Bottle,”  by The Police.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>107549</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 03 Nov 2016 12:40:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:46</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[family system,dysfunction,golden child,lost child,scapegoat child,elections,fall out,soul murder,Trump,Clinton,The Police,Hero Child,secrets,negative messages,lack of emotion,boundaries,Narcissism,Narcissistic,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Dysfunction,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Family Systems, the Narcissist and The Scapegoat Child]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SK]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
The scapegoat child of the narcissist / dysfunctional family gets the brunt of it.  They are the victims and projections of the family pain and dysfunction and they can be hit hard with criticism and even physical abuse. 
  
Parents who are emotionally not well can project their dis-ease onto their children.  Not only does the scapegoat suffer, but the other siblings suffer as well since the entire system goes out of whack.  When children get different treatment in the household, sibling rivalry can become an issue as well. 
 
We Shrunk That Tune. “Set Fire to The Rain.” by Adele.]]></itunes:summary>
        <enclosure url="https://mr-a.akamaihd.net/c/m/4/e/4/5/4e453997e02ab1bac0c27355a4c572e49545d4df/30d3b41a56db94d5b3440c417382e3b454c14595.mp3" type="audio/mpeg"/>
        <guid>107697</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 10 Nov 2016 06:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:16</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Dysfunctional family systems,scapegoat,brunt,victims,projections,criticism,physical abuse,dis-ease,sibling rivalry,Adele,lost child,scapegoat child,The Strong Child,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Family Systems, the Narcissist and The Golden Child]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every 
Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – S]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every 
Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
 
The golden child in the family is the child who is idealized and gets the very "best." The problem is, he or she pays a high price for being put on a pedestal. The role of the golden child is often times to represent the narcissistic parent and fulfill on his or her dreams so that he or she can be esteemed. The golden child has no sense of self because the self is defined by their parents’ wishes and needs. The golden child can later in the family system become the scapegoat and roles may change. Parents uneven treatment of their children can cause major sibling rivalry.

We Shrunk that Tune,  "We are The Champions," by Queen.]]></itunes:summary>
        <enclosure url="https://mr-a.akamaihd.net/c/m/c/a/e/f/caef3c13ce4bd4f4a6893c7e4e150c902c924514/6dddb87f3bf449af80360b63b118520e58a62d1c.mp3" type="audio/mpeg"/>
        <guid>107845</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 17 Nov 2016 09:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:06</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dysfunctional family system,idealized,pedestal,golden child,esteem,scapegoat,sibling rivalry,narcissism,healingglobaldisconnect.com Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Queen,Control,anxious,inadequate,terrified of failure,angry,sad,lonely,worthless,ashamed,numb,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[How to Talk to a Narcissist]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SK]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
 
We spoke about the inner wounds of the narcissist and how best to speak to them if you must. If you happen to be married to a narcissist or they are your mother father brother sister son daughter and you don't want to break the bond. 
 
You may want to learn some skills on how to communicate with a Narcissist.  Jay Klapperman, MA, one of the interns at the Psychological Healing Center, demonstrated how to keep connected to the narcissist and not upset them. 
 
First, keep away from the "you" word.  They will experience it as blame.  In general when communicating, be strategic and take all the blame and responsibility off of them so that they can hear you.
 
Many people hope that their narcissistic family member especially their parent will come around on their deathbed and express their dying love and apologies.  Don't hold your breath.  This does not usually occur. Most narcissistic defenses hold until the moment of death.  We will being discussing this more on our next show next week.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>108099</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 01 Dec 2016 12:35:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:32</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Narcissism,communication,strategic responsibility,deathbed apologies,wounds,defense skills,healingglobaldisconnect.com,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Narcissism, Death, and Expectations]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA.  You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SK]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA.  You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
 
The family wish is that the dying narcissist finally break down and apologize for all the abuse they inflicted in their lifetime. Don't hold your breath, most die as they live…with little remorse and little to no empathy.
 
Narcissists are injured people who derive their narcissistic supplies from others. As they demean devalue and destroy the people around them, they also destroy the opportunity to be supported and loved at the end of their life. Remaining family members such as siblings are oftentimes left fighting amongst themselves, squabbling over family inheritance.
 
We Shrunk That Tune,  :Apologize” by  Timberland]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>108214</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 08 Dec 2016 14:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:12</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[narcissism death remorse empathy injured demean devalue destroy inheritance healing global disconnect.com,Timberland,Expectations,Empathy,No Remorse,No Regrets,Boundaries,:Lies,Manipulation,Dying,Death,Aging,No Apology,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Narcissistic Families and The Mascot Child]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SK]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
 
To keep the Narcissistic Dysfunctional Families happy and distracted from pain, The Mascot Child puts on the face of a clown as an attempt to keep the family system from breaking down.  Some children of dysfunctional families become the scapegoat, the golden child, the lost child, or the mascot.
 
The Mascot Child is usually the youngest, and uses humor to defend against family pain.  Although the mascot looks happy and appears to be having fun, he or she is suffering  greatly inside.  Some mascots grow up to be comedians and use sarcasm and dark humor as coping mechanisms.  Some fill their hole in the soul with substance abuse later in life.
 
We Shrunk That Tune, "Tears of a clown" by Smokey Robinson and the Miracles]]></itunes:summary>
        <enclosure url="https://mr-a.akamaihd.net/c/m/3/5/9/f/359fc27a9a7452db315a903c5cb59a56d299f794/28f13fc06bc040b1de1ae1cc507dbb3196a74bef.mp3" type="audio/mpeg"/>
        <guid>108319</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 15 Dec 2016 16:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:03</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[mascot child,humor,dysfunctional family,narcissistic family system,scapegoat child,lost child,golden child,suffering,hole in the soul,substance-abuse,comedian,Court Jester,Sarcastic,Insecure,Angry,Shame,Unconditional Love,The Clown,Anxious,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Smokey Robinson,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Sigmund Freud and What the Freud]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SK]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
Dr. Sigmund Freud is the father of psycho analysis.  He had many theories, including the repetition compulsion, the tendency to repeat unfinished psychological business.
 
His contribution to current psychology, including my mind map system, is profound.  Concepts such as being stuck in the past until the unconscious can be made conscious. Other concepts such as being stuck in certain developmental stages such as the oral anal or phallic stage and our inability to psychologically grow if traumatized.
 
Dr. Freud was interested in people's dreams as a royal road to the unconscious.  He also thought that sex is a primary driving force in life.  His contribution is too numerous to list.  Come and learn about him, and his own owner abilities to cocaine in his final bought with cancer of the jaw as a result of cigar smoking – – apparently he smoked over 20 a day.
 
Let's remember his quote that sometimes a "a cigar is just a cigar" but usually it is a metaphor for something more significant.
 
We Shrunk The Tune...:Can’t Feel My Face”  By The Weekend...]]></itunes:summary>
        <enclosure url="https://mr-a.akamaihd.net/c/m/7/a/5/4/7a54c494f669c32fe1a47b57c8a6386a34322e2e/97d96282cb61ec7c18743344643cd8587e815e0a.mp3" type="audio/mpeg"/>
        <guid>108519</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 05 Jan 2017 13:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:36</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Sigmund Freud,Dr. psychoanalysis unconscious conscious past se drive theory dreams oral anal phallic stage cigar metaphor,The Weekend,Cigar,The Unconscious,Sexuality,Erotic,Talking Cures,Defense Mechanisms,Resistance to Change,Transference,Human Development,Neurotic Discontent,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Couch,Cancer,Cocaine,Dreams,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Only Child  -  Only the Lonlies]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
                                        Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
                                        Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
 
The ONLY CHILD can be the Golden Child, the Lost Child, the Scapegoat, or the Mascot or play the role of all four at different times in life.  Only children suffer from lack of another's perspective.  Since they don't have a sister or brother to be their memory bank and lend another point of view, they sometimes have a hard time remembering childhood events.
 
Only children sometime lack social skills--sharing is something they don't have to necessarily deal with.  And because they do not have a playmate, they may make up imaginary friends.
 
The burden is heavy on the ONLY CHILD.
Often they are the ones who have to care take their parents during old age, and oftentimes they are "adult" before their time.  Although they have been accused of being spoiled, it is more often the case that they are neglected, especially if their parents do not have enough time for them.
Because they are the only family "seed" there may be a lot of pressure on them to be great.
 
We Shrunk The Tune "One Is The Loneliest Number" by Three Dog Night]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>108663</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 12 Jan 2017 13:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:52</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Only child,golden child,lost child scapegoat,mascot,memory bank,social skills,imaginary friends,spoiled,pressure,Three Dog Night,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[The Middle Child]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
                                        Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
                                        Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
 
The middle child seems to be the one that is the best negotiator in the family. Statistically they are good communicators and tend to have better marriages--most of them do not cheat on their spouses.  Sometimes they tend to be people pleasers because they need to satisfy others around them.
 
At times they have to learn to be alone because the first child and the baby get the most attention. They seem to have more patience. Sometimes they have to make their presence known through being unique and creative or else they won't stand out. More than half of all presidents of the United States are middle children, including Donald Trump.
 
We Shrunk The Tune "Stuck in The Middle With You”  by  Stealers Wheel]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>108945</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 26 Jan 2017 22:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:32</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[negotiator,communicators,better marriages,cheat,people pleasers,alone,attention patience,creative,Presidents,Donald Trump,Stealers Wheel,compromise,negotiators,Problem Solvers,Risk Takers,Peace-Keepers,Independent,Easy Going,Go with the Flow,Resourceful,Listeners,Empathizers,Fair,Patient,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Family Secrets, Are There Skeletons in your Closet?]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Family secrets can destroy a family and reverberate to many of the members.  Secrets are a form of triangulation--someone knows a secret and that information which is withheld from others serves to falsely stabilize the family, until all usually ends in ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Family secrets can destroy a family and reverberate to many of the members.  Secrets are a form of triangulation--someone knows a secret and that information which is withheld from others serves to falsely stabilize the family, until all usually ends in CHAOS.
 
Secrets include secrets about adoption, incest, drug abuse, financial betrayal and other forms of betrayal.  There is a distinction between secrets and privacy.  Privacy usually preserves the family, while secrets destroy.
 
Family secrets when repressed can lead to depression on the part of the person pressured to "hold" the secret.
 
We Shrunk The Tune, "Don't Rock The Boat" by  The Hues Corporation .]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>109136</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 02 Feb 2017 18:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:01</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Family secrets,reverberate,triangulation,adoption,incest,drug abuse,betray.,privacy,repression,depression,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Sleepless nights,Guilt,Anxiety,Moods,Secrecy,Privacy,Suspicion,Resentment,Hues Corporation,Lies,Protect,Consequences,Poor Choices,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Mind, Body, and Spirit Connection And Psychosomatic Disorders]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SK]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally.
Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com
 
 
The mind and the body are intricately connected.  When the emotions hurt, the body suffers.  Heartache, for example, becomes physical.  People who don't want to go to war may find their legs paralyzed.  Others experiencing stress and dis-ease may find that they lose their hair, or feel that their stomach is tied up in knots.
 
Our symptoms are cues and clues that childhood wounds.  Emotionally hurt people can present with psychosomatic disorders.  People suffering from human disconnect may be on the verge of a panic attack.  Their overuse of hospitalization is yet another example of.
 
Much of our Mind, Body, and Spirit connection is affected by Stress.  Some of the best ways to reduce our stress is: Yoga, Exercise, Eating right, and Meditation. 
 
We Shrunk that Tune “Panic Attack”  by Dream Theater

Don't forget to purchase a copy of Dr. Judy's book,
“Be The Cause: Healing Human Disconnect”
Here's a link to purchase the book http://bit.ly/1OHJu3H
 
Psychological Healing Center now has its own iPhone App!
www.DrJudyWTF.com]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>109340</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 09 Feb 2017 10:20:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>1:01:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Mind,body,Spirit,Stress,psychosomatic,clues,childhood wounds,panic attack heartache,Meditation,Anxiety,Yoga,Dream Theater,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Sleep,Pain,Balance,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
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        <title><![CDATA[Family Secrets  -  Incest]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Incest comes in many forms.  Father to daughter, mother to son, brother to sister, and any family or extended family member to another. When a child is wounded in this manner, there is a deep sense of betrayal, loss and grief.
When betrayed in this way, ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Incest comes in many forms.  Father to daughter, mother to son, brother to sister, and any family or extended family member to another. When a child is wounded in this manner, there is a deep sense of betrayal, loss and grief.
When betrayed in this way, the child feels like he or she just "lost" that parent and begins to grieve the fantasy "good" parent they thought they had.
 
Reactions and defense mechanisms to incest are many--dissociation, numbing the pain with alcohol/drugs, promiscuity and other forms of acting out like cutting oneself, perpetrating incest on others (multigenerational) and the list goes on.
If you or a loved one has experienced incest, it is best to get help and work through the betrayal, hurt, and unprocessed PTSD.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>109462</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 16 Feb 2017 11:55:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:19</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Daughter,mother,son,wounded,loss,grief,reactions,defense mechanisms,multigenerational,Incest,Lost,Betrayal,Disillusioned,Deceived,Father,Brother,Lonely,PTSD,Fear,Guilty,Vulnerable,Emotional Incest,Rape,Boundaries,Sexual Abuse,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Disturbed,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[From Genes to Scenes – Sibling Rivalry – Part 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dysfunctional parents tend to scapegoat one child and idealize another -- the golden child.  Narcissistic  mothers and/or fathers, tend to set their children up for sibling rivalry so that they can maintain the focus and attention on themselves.
 
Our ca]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dysfunctional parents tend to scapegoat one child and idealize another -- the golden child.  Narcissistic  mothers and/or fathers, tend to set their children up for sibling rivalry so that they can maintain the focus and attention on themselves.
 
Our call-in guests spoke about the pain of being the scapegoat of their parents and experienced their siblings participate in demean and devalue them.
In essence parents can pit one child against another and create a disconnect between them. Sometimes children are used to do their parent's bidding.
 
We Shrunk That Tune,  "We are Family" by Sister Sledge]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>109592</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 23 Feb 2017 12:20:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:38</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dysfunctional families,narcissistic mothers,sibling rivalry,Demeaning,devaluing,negative core beliefs,disconnect,scapegoat,golden child,Mascot Child,Lost Child,Narcissistic,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Family,Brothers,Sisters,Sister Sledge,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Sibling Rivalry – Part 2  -  Narcissistic Mothers]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[When siblings don't get along, there's a reason behind it. Often times parents create bad family dynamics  scapegoating one child and elevating another to golden child position.
 
The situations can become very sad for those involved when parents pit one]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[When siblings don't get along, there's a reason behind it. Often times parents create bad family dynamics  scapegoating one child and elevating another to golden child position.
 
The situations can become very sad for those involved when parents pit one child against another, or expect one child to side with the parent against the other. Other forms of sibling rivalry include rivalry between half brothers and sisters or adopted children and biological children. When parents create safe boundaries and healthy family systems, sibling rivalry can be kept at a minimum.
 
We Shrunk That Tune  “Brothers and Sisters”  by  Coldplay]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>109866</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 02 Mar 2017 20:10:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:39</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[sibling rivalry,family dynamics,scapegoat,golden child,half-brothers,half-sisters,adopted children,foundries,healthy family systems,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Brother,Sister,Narcissistic Mother,ColdPlay,Sibling Rivalry,Fighting,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Domestic Violence – Part 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we spoke about a difficult topic -- domestic violence.  Age 16 through early 20's is the most prevalent period of acting out of this type of violence.  Most people who are killed are women and 3 a day die from domestic violence in the USA.
 
When c]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we spoke about a difficult topic -- domestic violence.  Age 16 through early 20's is the most prevalent period of acting out of this type of violence.  Most people who are killed are women and 3 a day die from domestic violence in the USA.
 
When childhood wounds of the past are activated in relationships, people get triggered and go down the emotional drain of CHAOS, DEFENSES and BREAKDOWNS, or Panels 4-5-6 from a Mind Map perspective.
 
"Vicki" our guest shared with us her experience of domestic violence with her partner. Alcohol, short fuses, and negative core belief triggers can trigger violent acting out. When the police are called in to intervene, it was her opportunity to draw her boundaries and exit the relationship.
 
We Shrunk That Tune,  “Hell is for Children”  by Pat Benatar ...]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>110071</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 09 Mar 2017 18:50:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:03</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Domestic violence,acting out,childhood wounds,relationships,chaos,defenses,breakdowns,Mind Map,alcohol,negative core belief,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Brother,Sister,Narcissistic Mother,ColdPlay,Sibling Rivalry,Fighting,Pat Benatar,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Domestic Violence – Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[One in 4 women and one in 7 men over 18 years old have been the victim of severe physical violence by their intimate partner.There are several red flags that indicate that you are with a potential batterer: Jealousy, controlling behavior, blaming others ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[One in 4 women and one in 7 men over 18 years old have been the victim of severe physical violence by their intimate partner.There are several red flags that indicate that you are with a potential batterer: Jealousy, controlling behavior, blaming others for their problems, hypersensitivity, breaking objects, isolating you, cruelty to animals or children are some of the signs. Don't walk unless you're willing to walk out, and DO get support. If need be, get legal help and social support, and know that you are worthy of being in a healthy relationship. The CAUSE of domestic violence patters are laid down during the first few years of life. Watching parents hurt each other and being exposed to abuse can set you up to tolerate it. It is important to identify wounds of childhood, dismantle them, and morph out of old blueprints so that you don't repeat the patterns.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>110289</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 16 Mar 2017 13:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:58:010</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr-judy-wtf,podcast,Domestic violence,batterer,jealousy,controlling behavior,blaming,hypersensitivity,cruelty,abuse,wounds,morph,patterns,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Atmosphere]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Abandonment -  Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[When we are emotionally abandoned by our primary caregivers, it leaves us with a hole in the soul and a sense of emptiness within. From a repetition principal perspective we are then vulnerable to choose partners who will do unto us what our parents did ]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[When we are emotionally abandoned by our primary caregivers, it leaves us with a hole in the soul and a sense of emptiness within. From a repetition principal perspective we are then vulnerable to choose partners who will do unto us what our parents did to us... Until we heal and stop the cycle.
 
Injury to the core self can result from childhood wounds such as physical sexual emotional abuse, smothering/spoiling, and abandonment. To be abandoned and discarded triggers negative core beliefs such as not being important and not being lovable, as examples. As a defense mechanism against abandonment, some will isolate, and others may abandon before they are abandoned.
 
These defense mechanisms create chaos and breakdowns and ultimately create more isolation and disconnection. By going deep into the wounds of abandonment and healing at the core we can break the WTF (What The Freud) repetition principle and reboot our system.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>110637</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 30 Mar 2017 20:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>1:02:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr-judy-wtf,podcast,abandonment,childhood wounds,abuse,negative core beliefs,defense mechanisms,isolate,chaos,disconnection,healing,WTF,Freud,reboot,Aerosmith,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Free For All Calls – Q&A on the Couch with Dr Judy]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Today we discussed the meaning of WTF, or What The Freud--it's the difference between a "normal" reaction to an event, verses an "over the top" reaction.
When we react "over the top" know that the triggers that set us off have more to do with wounds from]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Today we discussed the meaning of WTF, or What The Freud--it's the difference between a "normal" reaction to an event, verses an "over the top" reaction.
When we react "over the top" know that the triggers that set us off have more to do with wounds from the past than the activating event.
It's the exaggerated response that allows us to know that we are being triggered by core wounds that need our attention and healing.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>110651</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 06 Apr 2017 20:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:49</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr-judy-wtf,podcast,Call ins. abandonment,neglect WTF,What The Freud,reaction,triggers,healing,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[No Contact vs. Contact with Narcissists]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Narcissistically injured people project their toxic venom into others who are vulnerable to "taking in" their poison.  The most significant thing you can do for yourself is deactivate the "hook" or negative core belief that drives you to participate in t]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Narcissistically injured people project their toxic venom into others who are vulnerable to "taking in" their poison.  The most significant thing you can do for yourself is deactivate the "hook" or negative core belief that drives you to participate in this bad dynamic and free yourself from wounds of the past and prevent being vulnerable to narcissistic abuse.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>110781</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 13 Apr 2017 20:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:53:25</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr-judy-wtf,podcast,No contact,narcissists,boundaries,venom,deactivate,negative core belief,bad dynamic,wounds,abuse,Toxic Relationships,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,The Clash,Brainwashing,Addiction,Self Worth]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[No Contact vs. Contact with Narcissists – Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[The conversation continues as callers seek advice on whether or not to cut ties with family or significant others who have caused psychological injuries by demeaning, devaluing, destroying and discarding. "Hurt people" hurt people, and oftentimes spew th]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[The conversation continues as callers seek advice on whether or not to cut ties with family or significant others who have caused psychological injuries by demeaning, devaluing, destroying and discarding. "Hurt people" hurt people, and oftentimes spew their psychological poison on their children and significant others. You don't have to be in the line of fire, and it's OK to put yourself first. How much or little contact you want to have with those who have hurt you is an individual choice. Strong boundaries are necessary, and in some cases, a complete cutoff is therapeutic. Watch out for revengeful behavior, and CYAN (cover your ass) to protect yourself.Remember that narcissistic parents can create negative core beliefs in people such as "I'm not good enough" or "I'm worthless and unlovable" as examples. Being around them can easily trigger these negative core beliefs and re-injure.  The best intervention is to work on the core of the self, clear out past childhood wounds, and deactivate the triggers.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>110911</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 20 Apr 2017 18:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:44</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr-judy-wtf,podcast,No Contact,Narcissistic Parents,demeaning,devaluing,destroying,discarding,hurt,psychological poison,boundaries,triggers,negative core beliefs,childhood wounds,deactivate,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Rolling Stones,Brainwashing,Addiction,Self Worth,UBN,UBN Radio]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[No Contact vs. Contact with Narcissists – Part 3]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internatio]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally.
Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com
 
Thanks to all the callers who shared their story. At the end of the day, it is a personal decision whether or not you choose to go contact or no contact and oftentimes not easy to make. In some cases it is injurious to the sense of self to continue to be in communication with people who demean, devalue and continually destroy.
 
For some it is just too difficult to imagine life without ever having further contact with mom and or dad, as examples. If you must stay in touch, keep the conversation away from subjects that can lead to detonation, and make sure your boundaries are intact. Don't be hesitant to look out for #1, and that is YOURSELF!
 
We Shrunk That Tune...”Smooth Operator,” by Sade]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>111098</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 27 Apr 2017 14:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:58:55</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Narcissistic,family,injurious,demean,devalue,destroy,no contact,detonation,boundaries,Brainwashing,Narcissist,Addiction,Self Worth,Boundaries,Validation,No Contact,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Free For All Calls  2  – Q&A on the Couch with Dr Judy]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internatio]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally.
Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com
 
 
More conversation about the effects of narcissistic families on the children.  Sibling rivalry seems to be a dysfunctional system that narcissistically  injured  parents create in order to be the center of attention. From a mind map perspective the more the siblings clash the more the parents can gain the attention and primary position in the family.
 
In terms of contact versus no contact, it is a personal decision as to how to handle parents and family who demean devalue and destroy.  Many people who are severely triggered by their parents opt out or limit contacting them for fear that the injuries will continue. It's OK to put yourself first, and it's OK to set strong boundaries.
 
Thank You to all who are calling in and leaving comments.
 
We Shrunk That Tune… “For You”  by Staind]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>111210</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 04 May 2017 16:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:42</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[narcissistic,attention,siblings,rivalry,contact versus no contact,triggered,injuries,boundaries,demean,devalue,destroy,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Staind,Borderline Personality Disorder,BPD,NPD,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[We’re On the Brink of Divorce Can My Marriage Be Saved?  Part 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internatio]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally.
Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com
 
 
Our caller spoke about feeling relieved by her decision to divorce. In some cases it is best to do so. If possible and both parties are willing to heal, It is better to try to dump the problem and keep the person. 
 
Marriage discord affects the entire system of the family, friends and community. By taking responsibility for healing our childhood wounds, we can reboot the system and give the relationship another opportunity.
 
We Shrunk That Tune...”I’m So Happy I Can’t Stop Crying”  by Sting]]></itunes:summary>
        <enclosure url="https://mr-a.akamaihd.net/c/m/8/1/e/b/81eb7bbe62adf305e83560daba14a5c2a5415f67/5ba8cab9a6e3be2cde5bdfff7b8b2e1ae80c54a0.mp3" type="audio/mpeg"/>
        <guid>111344</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 11 May 2017 17:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:57:06</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Marriage,relationship,divorce,discord,childhood wounds,reboot,system,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Sting,Divorce,Save Marriage,Children,Forgiveness,Memories,Relationship,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[We’re On the Brink of Divorce Can My Marriage Be Saved?  Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internatio]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally.
Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com
 
Marriage discord affects the entire system of the family, friends and community. By taking responsibility for healing our childhood wounds, we can reboot the system and give the relationship another opportunity.
 
We talked about Fighting, Flight-ing, Freezing and Flowing in the context of a marriage that is done and on the way outs.  It’s about finding that little – tiny – bridge to keep communication open so the two of you and slowly build trust and your bond back – better than before.
 
We Shrunk That Tune...”Somebody That I Used to Know”  By Gotye]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>111467</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 18 May 2017 13:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:21</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Fighting,Flight-ing,Freezing,Flowing,love,Blame,Forgiveness,Cheating,married,Goyte,dr-judy-wtf,podcast]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Gaslighting  -  Part 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internatio]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally.
Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com
 
We had a “Double Show today!”  We had WTF – What the Freud, and
WTF – What the Film. 
Today we shrunk the movie Gaslight by turning DOWN the Gas and UP the Light and answered questions from callers and their experience with being gaslit. 
We shrunk the 1940 film, “Gaslight” staring, Charles Boyer, Ingrid Bergman (Her 1st well-earned Academy Oscar Award) and in her movie - Angela Lansbury!
It one of the movies “They Say” you must watch before you die.
 
Gaslighting is a way of driving someone crazy behind gaslighting is an agenda, usually an agenda to manipulate or control.
We are not crazy we are made crazy.  We soak in the perception of others, namely our parents and believe their perspective on how they see us.  This is both good and dangerous, and can swing either way.
 
To get a reality check. It's important to have an enlightened witness.
A person outside the system like a therapist can give some clear I perspective.
We Shrunk That Tune… "According To You", by Orianthi]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>111590</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 25 May 2017 08:35:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:59:39</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[gaslighting,agenda,manipulate,Control,enlightened witness,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Orianthi,Doubting,Crazy,Emotional,Insecure,Sorry,Argue,Excuses,Hopeless,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Gaslighting  -  Part 2]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internatio]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally.
Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com
 
We had a “Double Show today!”  We had WTF – What the Freud, and
WTF – What the Film. 
We shrunk the 1940 film, “Gaslight” staring, Charles Boyer, Ingrid Bergman (Her 1st well-earned Academy Oscar Award) and in her movie - Angela Lansbury!
It one of the movies “They Say” you must watch before you die.
 
Gaslighting is a way of driving someone crazy behind gaslighting is an agenda, usually an agenda to manipulate or control.
 
Gaslighting is a way to make people crazy.  There is always an agenda behind it, and the gaslit person is left questioning him or herself, wondering if he or she is distorted in thinking.
 
Today's callers were gaslit by various people in their lives and the struggle to recover from this very underhanded form of manipulation is not easy.
One form of gaslighting is when mother gaslights her son or daughter into believing that becoming independent and leaving home is a way of abandoning the family.  This unhealthy dependency is about mother's or father's need to be attended to, and ignores the adult child's need to leave and thrive. 
Hence, it's about the narcissistic parent's needs, and not the needs of the child
 
We Shrunk That Tune… " Narcissus ",  by Alanis Morissette]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>111688</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 01 Jun 2017 10:35:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:58:43</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[gaslighting,agenda,manipulate,Control,enlightened witness,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Alanis Morissette,Doubting,Crazy,Emotional,Insecure,Sorry,Argue,Excuses,Hopeless,distorted thinking,manipulation,independent,unhealthy dependency,narcissistic,Narcissism   Don't forget to get your copy of Dr. Judy's book,rebel-heart-with-kristie-reeves,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Negative Effects of Social Media]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Social media is doing a lot of harm to self-esteem.  As people compare their worst to other people's best, social media can trigger negative core beliefs such as "I'm not... lovable, beautiful, thin enough, smart enough, successful enough, etc."
 
Our gu]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Social media is doing a lot of harm to self-esteem.  As people compare their worst to other people's best, social media can trigger negative core beliefs such as "I'm not... lovable, beautiful, thin enough, smart enough, successful enough, etc."
 
Our guest Jillian Sorkin, MA, one of the team therapists at the Psychological Healing Center talked about the impact she is seeing on the patients. 
Social media triggers low self-esteem, body dysmorphic issues, and can be a forum for bullying. Instagram seems to be a big culprit, and YouTube on the other hand less so because it is a place where people can educate themselves.
 
Wee Shrunk The Tune Mean by Taylor Swift.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>112467</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 29 Jun 2017 15:55:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:56:00</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Social media,harm,self-esteem,trigger,negative core beliefs,Jillian Sorkin,MA,Psychological Healing Center,body dysmorphic,Bullying,YouTube,Instagram Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Family Systems,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Free For All Calls – July 2017]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internatio]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
 
Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally.
Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com
 
THANK YOU all for calling in and getting on the couch with Dr. Judy. Many questions today were directed at how the Mind Map transforms and creates "Aha" experiences.
 
Thank you callers, especially for the wonderful update by "Greg" who 2 years ago had a core belief that he is a "loser" and has recently lost over 200 pounds, is finishing his dissertation, and has gotten married! Greg, thank you for acknowledging the Mind Map System.
What an honor it is to be of service to you and others. 
 
Narcissistic injuries are epidemic and lead to "hole in the soul" symptoms of low self-esteem and painful emotional symptoms.  To get at the CAUSE of symptoms, we have to identify childhood wounds of abuse, neglect and smothering/spoiling, how they embed, and how to morph out of them.
 
The Mind Map is focused on identifying the wounds of childhood, how they encode into the fiber of our being, and how to shift out of what Dr. Judy refers to as our "cracked lens of perception way of thinking."
 
Once we can identify the mis-information or lies that we have encoded as truths about who we are (based on messages we encode during our childhood), we can shine the TRUTH LENS on the lies and begin the dismantling process.
 
We Shrunk That Tune  - Justin Timberlake "Can't Stop The Feeling!"]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>112577</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 06 Jul 2017 09:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:55:46</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Family Systems,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,wounds,childhood,shift,transform,Aha,truth lens,dismantle,cracked lens of perception,pain,Justin Timberlake,Narcissism,Narcissist,Borderline,Core belief,loser,Mind Map System,service,narcissistic injuries,epidemic,hole in the soul,CAUSE,symptoms,childhood wounds,abuse,neglect,smothering,spoiling Don't forget to get your copy of Dr. Judy's book,podcast,dr-judy-wtf]]></itunes:keywords>
    </item><item>
        <title><![CDATA[Highly Sensitive People  -  HSP  part 1]]></title>
        <itunes:author></itunes:author>
        <itunes:subtitle><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internatio]]></itunes:subtitle>
        <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Dr Judy WTF (What the Freud) broadcasts every
          Thursday at 8:00 PM Pacific Time in the USA. 
You can see us live at www.UBNradio.com on Channel 2.
It is a call in show.  Get on the Couch with your Emotional Ouch
USA – 323-843-2826  or Internationally – SKYPE – UBNradio2
You can also find Our Podcasts on: iHeartRadio, iTunes, Stitcher, & Speaker
 
Get a FREE consultation with Dr. Judy's staff or speak with Dr. Judy personally.
Visit our website here for more details at www.DrJudyWTF.com
 
Nature verses nurture: Why are people highly sensitive? Usually an interactive combination of nature and nurture, Highly Sensitive People (HSP) are sensitive to sound, light, and even the feel of clothing.
 
From a nurture perspective, when we are smothered/spoiled or emotionally dis-regulated, we never develop the thick enough skin necessary to protect us from emotional toxins.
 
Signs of emotionally sensitive people include being easily triggered by others, and on a positive side, having more empathy, creativity, and ability to be intuitive.
 
THANK YOU to all who called in and shared their triggers and sensitivities.  With better boundaries and self-care, we can better shield our emotions and prevent ourselves from being vampired by people who can take advantage of these vulnerabilities.
 
We Shrunk That Tune...”I’m Sensitive”  by Jewel.]]></itunes:summary>
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        <guid>112667</guid>
        <pubDate>Thu, 13 Jul 2017 12:25:00 +0000</pubDate>
        <itunes:duration>0:54:09</itunes:duration>
        <itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit>
        <itunes:keywords><![CDATA[dr-judy-wtf,podcast,Unconditional Love,Dr. Judy WTF,Walt Lusk,UBNradio.com,Family Systems,Get on the Couch with Dr. Judy,Healing Human Disconnect,Be The Cause,Attachment Theory,Hole in The Soul,Mind Map,Freud,Dr. Judy Rosenberg,Shrink That Tune,Healing Global Disconnect,Jewel,: Highly Sensitive People,HSP,nurture,nature,emotional toxins,triggered,creativity,intuitive,boundaries,vampired,vulnerabilities,abuse,Overwhelmed. Overstimulated,Emotional]]></itunes:keywords>
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